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Welcome to Fair Play!

The Fair Play book delivers a time and anxiety saving system that offers couples a completely new way to divvy up their domestic responsibilities. It started with the “Sh*t I Do” spreadsheet – a list of all the invisible tasks it takes to run a home, but developed into a gamified system with four easy-to-follow rules, 100 household tasks, and a figurative card game you play with your partner. Remember: Fair Play is a practice. Just like riding a bike for the first time it might feel awkward and you might fall down, but with time it will come as second nature to you!

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CPE Checklist

Adult Friendships (Player 1)

Adult Friendships (Player 1)

Each of you gets this card because friends are key to your health, happiness, resilience, career, and sanity. Whether it’s grabbing coffee after school drop-off, a dinner date, a networking event, or a weekend trip away, nurturing friendships will reap huge dividends. Friendships are not a luxury you’ll make time for in the future so use this card guilt-free now. No partner resentment allowed either, as a girls’ or guys’ night out is about so much more than a cocktail. It’s about cultivating relationships that will support and sustain you along with boosting the health of your marriage.

ADULT FRIENDSHIPS (PLAYER ONE)

- Prioritizing which friends are most important to you- Scheduling coffee, lunches, dinners, events, trips with friends

- Connecting with friends weekly (phone, text, email)- Taking time to remember friends’ birthdays, successes, challenges- Supporting friends during both happy and sad times

Do you have friends and do you see them?

Adult Friendships (Player 2)

Adult Friendships (Player 2)

ADULT FRIENDSHIPS (PLAYER TWO)

Aging/Ailing Parent

Aging/Ailing Parent

Sandwich generation, anyone? From managing medications, meals, and doctors’ appointments to making visiting a priority, caring for an aging/ailing parent can be all-consuming, not to mention the emotional challenge of this inevitable but often unexpected new caregiver role. Even if you outsource some of the work or can afford in-home or assisted-living support, CPEing this card requires all the love in your heart and a good chunk of your time.

The Wild suit includes life-changing scenarios that rock your world, and come with a mind-numbing amount of invisible work. When you’re dealt a Wild card (hopefully temporarily), you’re entitled to ask for additional help from your partner guilt-free. Your partner is encouraged to reach out to your village for even more support, but the Wild cardholder is not the one who handles this delegation. You and your partner are also encouraged to remove cards from your deck, temporarily, while dealing with a Wild card.

Do you feel supported to take the lead on this wildcard? Will your partner be stepping up to take on other cards?

Auto

Do you know what happens if you don’t put the new registration sticker on your car? You get a ticket that could have easily been avoided, that’s what. This cardholder handles all items relating to your family’s car(s), including putting that sticker on in a timely manner, paying for that darn ticket, renewing insurance, handling maintenance, getting car washes, regularly filling up with gas, and getting the oil checked so that you feel safe and secure in the family car.

- Researching cars to lease or buy (for budget, functionality, safety, look)- Scheduling maintenance (tire maintenance, oil, tune ups, certain mile inspections)- Researching auto insurance (consult with “home insurance” cardholder about a bundle)

- Renewing DMV registration- Cleaning (inside and out)- Managing inspections- Filling gas tank- Purchasing auto insurance and renewals

Are you driving a car that you feel safe in?

Bathing & Grooming (Kids)

Bathing & Grooming (Kids)

The nature of this cardholder’s responsibilities changes depending on your kids’ ages, but the point is that your kids need to brush their teeth, bathe, wash their faces, cut their nails, and brush their hair. Over and over again. Tip! Pay attention to your kids’ developing needs. If you notice a suspicious scent every time your teenager is within five feet, it’s probably time for this CPEer to buy deodorant and make sure your kid knows how often to use it. Daily!

BATHING & GROOMING (KIDS) (DG)

- Scheduling haircuts- Monitoring supply of bath products, detangler, scissors, toothbrushes and floss and notifying “home goods and supplies” cardholder

- Carrying out haircuts- Managing daily showers/baths including wash/brushing hair/brushing teeth- Cutting nails and toenails- Boo-boo care- Age-appropriate add-ons (e.g., deodorant, period care, razors, lotion, hair dryer, etc.)- Conducting lice checks when needed

Are your children groomed and presentable to the world? Would you be embarrassed to introduce your child to your boss? (i.e can you smell them from a mile away?)

Bedtime Routine (Kids)

Bedtime Routine (Kids)

It can be super rewarding when nighttime includes bonding over the day’s events, cuddling like nobody’s business, or lying quietly with your precious child. Not so much when this routine becomes a battle over bedtime. Pleas for just one more glass of water or five more minutes of reading can test your patience and fortitude (no wonder Go the F**k to Sleep is a bestselling book). While one person needs to take the CPE lead, the other is not home free (i.e., this is not an ideal window of time for you to hit the couch and start flipping channels). Your collaboration is encouraged. Try this: One partner holds the “bathing and grooming (kids)” card to get the party started while the other is responsible for jammies, stories, and lights out. Keep in mind that this routine won’t last forever. Before you know it, your babies will be teenagers and you’ll be going to sleep long before them.

BEDTIME ROUTINE (DG)

- Encouraging reading or quiet activity before bed- Coordinating with “bathing and grooming (kids)” cardholder to follow their lead on routine schedule

- Enforcing lights-out policy at particular time- Reading with kids- Bringing kids to the bathroom- Filling bedside water glass

Are the kids calm before bed and well-rested?

Birth Control

Birth Control

Why is this a separate card instead of being a component of self-care or medical? Because the woman should not be the she-fault cardholder, meaning either of you can claim this card. If having a baby is not on you and your partner’s agenda, this cardholder will research contraception options, which may include buying condoms, the pill, an IUD, or scheduling a vasectomy. (Not sure if being too tired to have sex at all is considered a form of birth control? Ask around.)

BIRTH CONTROL

- Researching options (vasectomy, pill/IUD, condoms, etc.)- Scheduling doctor appointment(s), if applicable

- Implementing plan

Are you protected from getting pregnant?

Birthday Celebrations (Other Kids)

Birthday Celebrations (Other Kids)

From RSVPing to buying presents, the birthday party circuit for your kids is riddled with opportunities for missteps . . . like when you’re already out the door and realize it’s a princess dress-up theme. Oops. And why didn’t anyone warn you how many weekend hours you’d be spending at other kids’ birthday parties chitchatting with parents you hardly know? Do a happy dance if siblings are invited so you can have two kids in the same place at the same time. Note! If you have two or more kids who have to be at separate birthday celebrations, you and your partner can both hold this card separately. A Kid Split means you both CPE the same card at the same time but for separate kids. See page 267 for more about splitting cards. Post Note! This card pairs with the “transportation (kids)” and “gifts (VIPs)” cards. Meaning, if you RSVP’d yes to the birthday party at the trampoline park, you are responsible for getting your son there (gift in hand) and picking him up afterward.

BIRTHDAY CELEBRATIONS (OTHER KIDS)

- RSVPing to invitations (informing “calendar keeper” cardholder)- Arranging for transportation/attending if younger child

- Purchasing stickers/cards, wrapping, gift cards and/or birthday gifts- Wrapping gift(s)- Filling out facility waivers (e.g., trampoline park)- Providing money to child if necessary- Attending party if younger child

Did you RSVP after consulting with your partner and did your kid get there on time with a gift and enjoy the party?

Birthday Celebrations (Your Kids)

Birthday Celebrations (Your Kids)

Have you ever tried shoving a dozen balloons into the trunk of your car? It’s like playing a game of whack-a-mole but you get no prize. How about copying and pasting email addresses for the whole class into your online invitation? Time suck. These are just illustrations of the many tasks you’ll handle when planning your child’s birthday party. Even if you keep it simple with a family dinner at home, this cardholder might be the one who battles rush-hour traffic to pick up a cake at a favorite bakery before it closes. Don’t forget candles, but no need to buy a present unless you’re also the “gifts (family)” lead.

BIRTHDAY CELEBRATIONS (YOUR KIDS)

- Discussing party expectations with your child- Creating an invite list- Researching party location options, including available dates, pricing, and number of children allowed- Planning family dinner and other special surprises for day of- In school birthday party preparation and supplies

- Booking entertainment- Designing an online invitation or ordering printed ones and sending- Ordering favors, decorations, cake, candles, and paper products for party Note: Purchasing gifts is the responsibility of the “gifts (family)” cardholder

Did the celebration honor your child in a way that felt good to them?

Calendar Keeper

Calendar Keeper

You know how some business executives have an assistant to schedule all their meetings and events? Well, your family is busier but you have no one. It’s up to you to create a system that works for your family so everyone knows what’s on the calendar day to day and week to week and plans accordingly. Just when you think you’ve nailed the schedule and hung it on the wall, you’ll find out that soccer practice is on the same day as Boy Scouts and you’ll be back to square one. Add in your own commitments along with your spouse’s, and you’ve got a job with more moving parts than a millipede.

CALENDAR KEEPER (DG)

- Researching how to keep a shared calendar/joint calendar option/app- Pick a shared calendar option- Conversations/coordinating/tracking invitations with other cardholders

- Adding/deleting appointments- Creating kids schedules for helpers with “childcare helpers” cardholder

Does everyone know where they need to be before they have to be there?

Cash & Bills

Cash & Bills

How darn hard can it be to get to the bank so you have adequate cash on hand (after consulting the “money manager,” who can help define the standard for adequate)? Enter this cardholder, who will set up a system that prevents all interested parties from ever uttering or hearing, “Sorry, hon, I’ve only got five bucks.” This CPEer also handles the payment (on time!) of all bills, whether online, checks in the mail, or auto-pay, and balances the checkbook (or the virtual equivalent). Cozy up with the “mail” cardholder, who will ensure paper bills come your way.

CASH & BILLS

- Set up auto-pay and/or reminders

- Withdrawing cash for the week- Paying all bills and vendor invoices (auto pay/electronic, Venmo, checks, cash)- Balancing checkbook- Doling out children’s allowance

Do you have cash when you need it? Were all the bills paid on time with no late fees?

Charity, Community Service & Good Deeds

Charity, Community Service & Good Deeds

You want to give back to your community, religious institution, your kids’ schools, or whatever causes are meaningful to you or to others who ask for your support. This cardholder is generous with his or her time (making the meatloaf for the neighborhood meal train) and also your family’s money, so don’t forget to consult the “money manager” before making pledges at the annual school fundraiser you can’t afford.

CHARITY & GOOD DEEDS (ADULT)

- Researching charities

- Making donations- Volunteering- Collecting donations for food banks/Serving on charity boards- Meal trains and other community support- Visiting the sick

Do both partners feel good about your contributions to your community/greater world?

Childcare Helpers (Kids)

Childcare Helpers (Kids)

It takes a village, and you’re fortunate if your village includes a nanny, babysitter, family caregivers, or others who pitch in with the kids. It can be a lifesaver to have the help, but it still requires someone to Conceive and Plan before Nanny Poppins or Grandma Shirley shows up to help Execute. They don’t magically appear when you want them to, so schedules need to be managed, along with payment, delegation of responsibilities, and ongoing communication. Heads up: When your helper cancels or quits, this cardholder is not necessarily the one who drops everything. Rather, engage in Fair Play immediately to re-deal the applicable cards, for example, “transportation (kids)” and “watching.”

Childcare Helpers (DG)

• Discussing with stakeholders what is needed for the home at this stage of life • Sourcing if not family (care.com/websites/word of mouth/emails/FB posts/agency) • Transportation concerns: car seats, boosters, etc. • Interviewing (scheduling, conducting, reference checking) • Scheduling days they will be working • Planning terms including payment – hourly vs. salary, on or off the books, determining payment vehicle/employer

• Hiring (negotiating terms/contract) • Ongoing communication and supervision • Making payments • Purchasing/providing meals and snacks for helper • Reimbursing: Gas, meals, and other reimbursements • Termination issues

Will they show up when you need them, know what they are supposed to do and are paid on time?

Civic Engagement & Cultural Enrichment

Civic Engagement & Cultural Enrichment

Why do all your friends have tickets to the local production of Annie, and you didn’t even know about it? Maybe they had someone to CPE this card . . . and now you will, too. From your city council meetings to concerts to a lecture at the library, this cardholder will take it upon him or herself to research and plan for community events that enhance your family’s life experience. Check in with the “calendar keeper” before you purchase tickets to see your favorite redheaded orphan storm the stage.

CIVIC ENGAGEMENT & CULTURAL ENRICHMENT

- Signing up for civic groups and voter registration drives- Researching opportunities (subscribing to local community, park, mall, bookstore, library events newsletters/emails/texts)- Discussing cultural interests as a family

- Attending meetings of homeowners association, city council, Neighborhood Watch etc.- Purchasing tickets and/or memberships and attending (performing arts, sporting events, concerts, speaker series, museums/art exhibits, movies, comedy shows)

Are your kids exposed to new events that enhance their regular life experiences?

Cleaning

The pancake batter that fell into the crack on the side of the oven? Last week? It’s still there. The pee all over the toilet seat because your toddler can’t aim? Still there. The trail of sand in your entryway post-playground? Still there. If you have someone to help deep clean your bathroom and kitchen—lucky you. It’s still your responsibility to manage the schedule, task list, payment, etc. Re-deal this card often, as it’s a biggie. Tip! Coordinate with the “home goods and supplies” cardholder so you have cleaning supplies in the house when you need them.

CLEANING (DG)

OUTSOURCED- Sourcing- Communicating with “home goods and supplies” cardholder for supplies- Scheduling- InterviewingINSOURCED- Communicating with “home goods and supplies” cardholder for supplies

- Hiring- Ongoing communication and supervision- Making payments- Reimbursing to purchase suppliesDAILY/WEEKLY- Bed making- Counter-top cleaning- Vacuuming floors/carpets/couches- Bathroom toilet bowl cleaning/bathroom floor mopping- Bathtub/shower tile and glassOCCASIONAL- Carpets/floor- Drapes- Dusting- Toys- Window washing- Defrosting refrigerator/freezer- Outdoor grill/barbecue/furniture- Upholstery

Will our home be reasonably clean and safe for our family?

Clothes & Accessories (Kids)

Clothes & Accessories (Kids)

News flash: Your kids’ shoes and clothes—in sizes that fit— don’t magically show up in their closets. Someone needs to CPE what clothes and accessories to buy, get to the appropriate stores, clean out drawers periodically, and hand off used and outgrown clothes to the “tidying up, organizing, and donations” cardholder. Suggested timeline: If your child’s feet have blisters, you’ve probably waited too long to buy new shoes. Exception: If there is a camp or school one-off clothing need (see Case of the Color War), this responsibility stays with the “school breaks (summer)” or “homework” cardholder.

CLOTHES & ACCESSORIES (KIDS)

- Sorting through child's current wardrobe- Determining which clothes still fit and which they have outgrown- Creating a list of clothing needs whether it be seasonal or by occasion or age (e.g., bras)- Evaluating underwear, socks, shoes, and accessories- Arranging for try-on time- Coordinating with “returns and store credits” cardholder if needed Exception: clothes for special school days responsibility of “homework, projects, and school supplies” cardholder

- Donating or passing on those items they have outgrown to other children- Shopping for items in store or online

Are there appropriate seasonal clothes that are available to the children when they need them? (i.e. winter coat available before the snow comes)

Death

As if the loss of a loved one isn’t unbearable enough, there are also many important items of business requiring your time, including arranging a funeral, a shiva or other spiritual or religious rituals, and then acknowledging those who paid their respects. If handling any will or estate issues and packing up your loved one’s home and belongings are your responsibilities, prepare to be holding this card for quite some time.

Dental (Kids)

Dental (Kids)

Your kid’s job: Pick out a rubber band color for his braces. Your job: Carve out a boatload of time for orthodontist appointments and pay for it all, too. Regular dental visits will also keep you plenty busy because each child needs regular cleanings and checkups (it’s been six months already?) along with more time-consuming appointments for getting cavities filled. You get a free toothbrush at the end of each visit, so at least there’s that.

DENTAL (KIDS)

- Researching and selecting dentist- Scheduling bi-annual dental cleanings- Informing “bedtime routine” cardholder about appropriate daily dental hygiene- Checking on toothbrush and toothpaste for when to replace and informing “home goods and supplies” cardholder- Orthodontist visits if applicable

- Attending dentist appointments- Following up with specialists like orthodontists- At-home orthodontic care (purchase and application of rubber bands, head gear etc.)

Are your children at the dentist with a protocol of every six-month visit and do you follow up on the dentists advice?

Diapering & Potty Training (Kids)

Diapering & Potty Training (Kids)

Let’s be clear: This cardholder will not be the only one changing diapers. Expect to re-deal this card often. While you are the lead, you will, however, be the one responsible for maintaining inventory, including ordering new diapers or washing cloth ones, and getting the soiled ones out of your house ASAP. This cardholder will also oversee potty training your kids, including cleaning up the mistakes along the way. When you’re finally a diaper-free home, you may still find yourself wiping the butt of your first grader, who is perfectly capable of doing it on his or her own. This will end one day—promise.

DIAPERING & POTTY TRAINING (DG)

- Determining diapering options (disposable brands or cloth)- Taking inventory of diaper bags (wipes, diapers, creams, changing pad, pacifiers, extra change of clothes, loveys, toys, books, etc.)- Researching, consulting with partner regarding training plan- Informing and enlisting teachers and childcare helpers in potty-training plan

- Purchasing appropriately sized diapers/wipes as baby grows (or coordinating with “Home Goods and Supplies” cardholder)- Stocking diaper bags- Overseeing implementation for potty training

It should be dealt with proactively so are you in a rash-free smell-free home? (i.e are the crystals falling out? WTF are those things?)

Discipline & Screen Time (Kids)

Discipline & Screen Time (Kids)

While it’s no fun to discipline kids, the Magic is in setting critical boundaries and giving them tools that will impact how safe they feel and how they conduct themselves for a lifetime. The goal is not for one parent to be responsible for discipline while the other holds “fun! and playing” forever. That’s why this card requires ongoing collaboration between partners, with one cardholder at a time taking the lead. For example, screen time. This came up as the most discussed disciplinary issue within families. It’s a biggie, and if you hold this card, you may conduct research about an appropriate amount of screen time for your kids and consult with your partner about reasonable boundaries along with the parameters for taking it away; then you’ll each enforce your family’s rules and consequences on an ongoing basis.

DISCIPLINE & SCREEN TIME (DG)

- Researching appropriate discipline for different life stages- Devising a strategy to recommend to your spouse- Setting up parental controls, negotiating what games/sites your kid can visit, downloading one of those apps that turns the Wi-Fi off on your child’s device after a certain number of minutes- Informing childcare helpers of limits as needed- Updating plan as needed

- Informing child and enforcing limits

Are you guiding your children to know right from wrong and the consequences of their actions? What is appropriate for them to watch and for how long?

Dishes

It’s no wonder so many articles about domestic labor begin and end with dishes—the metaphorical third rail of chores. This cardholder is responsible for washing and drying by hand and/or loading and unloading the dishwasher—for every meal. The upside? Your partner doesn’t get to criticize how you put the plates in the “wrong” way. Re-deal this card often to avoid thrown dishes.

DISHES (DG)

- Paying special care to specialty items like non-stick and cast-iron items

- Washing and drying dishes and pots and pans (by hand) and/or loading and unloading dishwasher- Putting dishes away in proper location

Are the dishes appropriately handled? Clean dry and put away on a regular basis? (i.e pans hand washed if needed)

Dry Cleaning

Dry Cleaning

Even something as seemingly straightforward as dry cleaning requires step-by-step CPE. This card entails having a bin/bag at home, ensuring the appropriate clothes get into that bin/bag, finding a dry cleaner, knowing when it’s open so you can coordinate drop-off and pickup, and taking off the plastic wrapping before hanging clothes back in the closet. If the mutually agreed-upon MSC is that all clothes come back home, this cardholder is responsible for tracking down their spouse’s favorite shirt when it goes missing or negotiating a refund. (And maybe finding a new dry cleaner, too.)

DRY CLEANING

- Researching appropriate dry cleaner for pricing, location and hours- Setting up account at dry cleaner for payment- Scheduling pick-up/drop-off or physical pick-up and drop-off in store- Taking inventory of pieces dropped off

- Purchasing dry-cleaning bin/or bag and making sure appropriate clothes are in the bin- Tagging pants/shirts with stains- Ensuring matching pieces picked up- Taking off plastic wrapping and placing clothes in closet

Are your dry-cleaned clothes ready and clean when you need them?

Electronics & IT

Electronics & IT

When your cell phone screen shatters, who ya gonna call? This cardholder! When your Wi-Fi isn’t working or your DVR is full, who ya gonna call? This cardholder! You need not work at the cable company or have tech know-how, but you do need to have ample time and patience to CPE this card, especially when you have to wait six hours for the cable guy. New cords, chargers, and ink cartridges? Also you. Waiting in line to get your kid his first phone? Still you.

ELECTRONICS & IT

- Researching appropriate electronics such as: TV, laptops/computers, tablets/e-readers, video game systems/VR, headphones, surround sound speakers, cell phones, smartwatches, home theater/audio, chargers/cords, home phones- Researching and arranging for installation of Wi-Fi- Researching password managers

- Purchasing electronics- Installation management of electronics and cable TV/satellite/boxed TV- Electronics troubleshooting and software updating- Managing subscriptions (including log in information to various vendors such as cable/satellite TV, boxed TV, subscription television and streaming services)- Deleting/managing DVR shows for space storage- Wi-Fi/router maintenance and troubleshooting- Saving data (USB/cloud storage)

Is everything up to do date as needed and working when you need it to be?

Estate Planning & Life Insurance

Estate Planning & Life Insurance

Who will take care of your kids if something catastrophic happens to you and your partner? Of course both partners will plan together as you think about long-term security for your family and life-and-death medical decisions, but ultimately this cardholder is responsible for making sure the job gets done so you can all sleep at night knowing there’s a worst-case scenario plan (and insurance funds) in place.

ESTATE PLANNING & LIFE INSURANCE

- Researching attorney/insurance agent or online service- Selecting and informing childcare custodian- Researching appropriate life insurance (term, whole life, etc.)- Researching appropriate disability insurance

- Meeting with attorney to set plan or fill out forms online regarding will/trust, power of attorney, healthcare directive, guardianship designation- Purchasing insurance policy

Does the plan reflect your current family circumstances and is it legally binding and effective?

Extended Family

Extended Family

Someone’s got to remember to call Great-Aunt Mary on her ninetieth birthday. Same goes for scheduling playdates with cousins if you want the kids to have a relationship (even if you’re the one who always ends up doing the two-hour roundtrip drive). Depending on how much you and your partner value this card, this CPEer might plan frequent get-togethers with relatives or just be the one to remember to invite Uncle Norman to Thanksgiving dinner knowing full well he’ll have one too many drinks and talk politics all night.

EXTENDED FAMILY

- Staying apprised of health, financial concerns and lives of extended family- Deciding whom to see and planning dates/scheduling family dinners, visits, and reunions

- Key milestone/time of year/illness calls and correspondence: birthday, holidays, graduations, illness/hospital visits, etc.- Implementing extended family plans

Is there a quality relationship with your extended family?

Extracurricular (Kids, Non-Sports)

Extracurricular (Kids, Non-Sports)

Let’s say your daughter begs to be in the school play—with rehearsals on the same days that she already has Girl Scouts. This cardholder must sleuth out what the extracurricular commitment entails and how to juggle it within the context of the family calendar. Note! This card pairs with the “transportation (kids)” and “packing (local)” cards. Meaning, if you register your daughter for Girl Scouts and also sign her up for the school play, you are responsible for coordinating how she will get to and from both events with both her costume and cookies in hand.

EXTRA-CURRICULAR (NON-SPORTS) (DG)

- Determining child's desired activities- Researching all activity options (0-2: baby music, gymnastics, and play groups; 2 and up: variety of options)- Surveying child's friends to see if child can participate with friends (in consult with “friendship” cardholder)- Determining practice schedules if applicable- Managing at home practice and preparation and/or arranging for additional support/coaching (consult with “tutoring/coaching” cardholder)- Reviewing schedule and consulting with “calendar keeper”, “transportation (kids)”, “tutoring and coaching”, and “showing up and participating” cardholders- Arranging for transportation

- Signing up and registering for activities- Purchasing/storing/updating items for activity- Packing necessary items in bag for practice (including water bottle and snacks)- Volunteering when necessary (snack sign-up, work backstage, etc.)

Are you fostering your goals for your children which may include friendship, life skills, healthy competition, coordination, and brain development? Is it consistent enough for your kid to be enriched by the experience (meaningful exposure) and are they demonstrating improvement?

Extracurriculars (Kids, Sports)

Extracurriculars (Kids, Sports)

If you think this card means just showing up on the right field at the right time to cheer on your kid, you couldn’t be more wrong. While the Execution can be rewarding when you’re there to watch your child hit a home run, the Conception and Planning are more tedious and require tremendous forethought. What are the equipment needs? What’s the game schedule? And when do you have to provide the team snack? Note! This card also pairs with the “transportation (kids)” and “packing (local)” cards. Not only are you responsible for making sure the mitt is in the bag, but you’re also on the hook for coordinating how your kid will get to the field on time.

EXTRA-CURRICULAR (SPORTS) (DG)

- Determining child's desired activities- Researching all sports options (school, gyms and/or community leagues)- Surveying child's friends to see if child can play with friends (in consult with “friendship” cardholder)- Determining practice and game schedules- Managing at-home practice and preparation and/or arranging for additional support/coaching (consult with “tutoring/coaching” cardholder)- Researching equipment needs- Arranging for transportation to practices and games

- Signing up and registering for the sports lesson/team- Purchasing/storing/laundering/updating necessary uniforms/equipment/cleats- Packing necessary items in bag for practice and games (including uniform, water bottle and snacks)- Volunteering when necessary (snack sign-up, end-of-season party, etc.)

First Year of Infant's Life

First Year of Infant's Life

Unsettled hormones, sleep deprivation, and a ravaged body are enough to make this a Wild card, not to mention that your time has all but disappeared. The days of having even a consecutive two-hour stretch of time to be productive are a vague memory as you drown in nursing/feeding, diaper changing, comforting your baby around the clock, and an innumerable amount of other to-dos all courtesy of your bundle of joy. Make no mistake: The first year of an infant’s life is not only a “Mom thing.” There’s plenty for Dad to do, too. While you’re trying to survive another day, let him dig into the Daily Grind cards: “laundry,” “dishes,” “garbage,” “groceries,” and taking the lead on “meals (weekday dinner).”

First-Aid, Safety & Emergency

First-Aid, Safety & Emergency

Before bringing home baby from the hospital, this cardholder has installed the infant car seat (yep, it’s a pain, but it’s the law). Before a major storm hits, this cardholder will stock up on batteries, bottled water, and other basics. Does your family have an emergency plan for a time when phones may not work and you need to leave the house for a safer place? Working flashlights, candles, and matches for when the power is out? Needless to say, this card is a big one and should be taken seriously.

FIRST-AID, SAFETY & EMERGENCY

- Developing emergency list/plan to include contacts, medical directions, home shut off systems etc.- Researching car seats

- Creating first-aid kit and other supplies, such as extra food/flashlights, etc. for home and car- Earthquake proofing/childproofing home- Purchasing and installing car seats

Are you sufficiently prepared?

Friendships & Social Media (Kids)

Friendships & Social Media (Kids)

Do you know who your kids are playing with IRL and online? Unless your children come home from school in tears confiding in you, how would you know if they’re hanging with the wrong crowd, feeling left out, or being bullied? Make it your business to plug in (get it?) to your kids’ social dynamics online and also help plan and supervise playdates, sleepovers, and any other kid get-togethers.

FRIENDSHIPS & SOCIAL MEDIA (KIDS) (DG)

- Friendship detective questions (evaluating child’s social situation to see if they are making connections with others, that is, asking appropriate questions of child: who they play with at recess, who they sit with at lunch etc., is anyone bullying them at school, are they confident in who they are spending their time with)- Discussing friend situation with child at start of school year and working with “teacher communication” cardholder on any issues- Planning and scheduling sleepovers, outings, play dates with friends

- Carrying out sleepovers, outings, play dates with friends- Monitoring and regulating social media accounts in coordination with “discipline and screen” time cardholder

Are they appropriately socialized in real life? Do you feel in control of their social media?

Fun & Playing (Kids)

Fun & Playing (Kids)

Maybe you’ve forgotten that parenting is fun! So fun that after you take your kids to the indoor water park they begged you to take them to, your ensuing urinary tract infection feels totally worth it. Seriously, childhood should include interactive playful moments as a family on a regular basis, and those moments and memories are, in fact, magical (UTI notwithstanding). This cardholder will CPE ongoing time for fun, such as arranging to throw a football around in the park at twilight, creating a weekly family game night, or any other activities your kids enjoy. Holding this card can be a blast, so be sure to hand it back and forth regularly with your partner and spread the fun around.

FUN! & PLAYING

- Planning consistent opportunities for family fun: game nights, reading together, playing sports, hiking, races, biking, running, building forts/blocks/Legos, playgrounds, amusement parks, magic, kites, science, tinkering, fun runs, dances, baking, special projects, etc.

- Executing consistent opportunities for family fun

Has your family shared some interactive playful moments recently?

Garbage

Really, how much darn trash can one family create? Staggering. To CPE this card means, at minimum, you take out the trash before the garbage truck turns the corner of your block (which day is it again?). Whoever holds this card is responsible for anticipating when trash bags are running low, and a word to the wise: Don’t you dare sit back down on the couch until you put a new bag back in the trash can!

GARBAGE (DG)

ALL NON-APARTMENT DWELLERS- Applying to the city/municipality for garbage bins- Taking note of garbage day

- Placing/replacing bag in home trash can- Removing full garbage bags- Placing full garbage bags in trash shoot/outdoor bins- Labeling bins- Taking bins back out/in, driving to town dump/placing garbage in alley- Checking bins for overflow trash/keeping bins clean

Is trash out of your home before it overflows and if applicable did the cans go out before trash day?

Gestures of Love (Kids)

Gestures of Love (Kids)

You know that mom who leaves handwritten notes in her kid’s lunch box that read “I love you to the moon and back”? Or the dad who drops by basketball practice for a quick hug? With some thought, time, and effort—some CPE, if you will—that parent could be you, making every day a little more special for everyone. Note! You’re both equally capable of having the forethought and spending the time to buy a bouquet of flowers before your child’s dance recital, but trust me on this—even gestures of love benefit from one person taking the lead. To ensure that the gesture isn’t missed or forgotten, assign one person to pick up flowers for the recital this week, and then re-deal to assign a lead next week.

GESTURES OF LOVE (KIDS)

- Creating plan for appropriate gestures    

- May include: flowers for recitals, notes on mirrors/lunch boxes, family hugs, surprise pick-up, etc.

- Following through on planned gestures

Would your kid report random acts of kindness from you if asked? (i.e. flowers at their recital)

Gifts (Family)

Gifts (Family)

Gift giving is not about buying something because a date on the calendar compels you to. When you get it right, it’s about connection and appreciation. The Magic here lies in finding gifts and writing cards that will make your family members feel special when a holiday, graduation, birthday, or any other occasion comes around. So the next time you see a card with a message that would resonate with your child, you might purchase it even though his or her birthday is a few months away. Tip! Re-deal as needed so you don’t have to buy birthday gifts for yourself.

GIFTS (FAMILY)

- Noting occasions (birthdays, holidays, Mother’s/Father’s Day) and people (children, parents, aunts/uncles, grandparents etc.) that may require gifts Exception: Cards/correspondence for extended family, parents, and in-laws stay with those “extended family” and “parents and in-laws” cardholders.

- Purchasing birthday cards and presents (having children/partner sign)- Wrapping presents- Shipping gifts if necessary

Are thoughtful gifts given at the appropriate times?

Gifts (VIP)

Gifts (VIP)

When it comes to Very Important People gift giving, the recipient might be your child’s teacher, coach, or the neighbors hosting you two doors down. If regifting is your thing, then CPEing this card can be easy and straightforward. Alternatively, this cardholder may wish to spend more time personalizing gifts and writing heartfelt cards. Either way—or somewhere in the middle—gift giving is an opportunity to connect with and thank the very important people in your life, which requires year-round CPE. Exception: Other kids’ birthday gifts stays with the “birthday celebrations (other kids)” cardholder.

GIFTS (VIPS)

- Noting occasions (invite to someone’s home, end of season coaching party, holiday time) and people (friends, coaches, teachers, childcare helpers, service providers such as mail carrier) that may require gifts

Glitch in the Matrix/ Daily Disruption

Glitch in the Matrix/ Daily Disruption

The last thing in the world you have time for is dealing with the unexpected disruption of a fender bender, a computer virus, a flooded basement . . . or having the phone ring and seeing the dreaded school phone number. Your child has lice . . . can you come pick her up? You don’t get a vote when a Wild card lands in your lap, but you do get to ask for a helping hand from your partner when a daily disruption torpedoes your day. Remember: Leaving work early because of X, Y, or Z is not “on you” unless you currently hold this card.

Groceries

Your family needs to eat. Can we all agree on that? Good. So how do the pantry and refrigerator get stocked on an ongoing basis? With CPE. This includes noticing what’s about to be used up or expire, keeping a running grocery list, and getting to the market . . . ideally before you realize there’s not a drop of milk in the fridge. Even if your family orders groceries online and your go-to dinner is frozen pizza, this card requires CPE nearly 365 days a year. Consult the various “meals” cardholders regularly so you can be sure you have taco shells in the cupboard for taco night.

GROCERIES (DG)

- Making a master list (consulting with “meals” cardholder)- Checking refrigerator and pantry for what is low and adding to list

- Shopping (grocery stores and/or online)- Loading and unloading groceries- Placing items in pantry/refrigerator- Throwing away expired items from refrigerator/freezer

Are the appropriate, agreed-upon groceries in the home when you need them?

Grooming & Wardrobe (Player 1)

Grooming & Wardrobe (Player 1)

Looking and feeling good, especially after children, doesn’t come easy. (There’s a reason that beauty is a $445 billion industry.) Even if you’re a DIY kind of woman, it still takes time to slather on moisturizer, pluck your eyebrows, style your hair, and put on lipstick. Kick it up a notch and you may add mani/pedis, eyelash extensions, and waxing to your beauty regimen. Add in shopping for clothes (in various sizes for pre-pregnancy, post-pregnancy, nursing, and every other reason your weight fluctuates) and you’ve got a potentially expensive and time-consuming card in your hands.

BEAUTY & WARDROBE (PLAYER ONE)

INSOURCED- Purchasing all necessary beauty products and tools, including makeup (lipstick, powder, mascara, eye liner/shadow, foundation, eyebrow liner) tweezers, deodorant, moisturizers/lotions/anti-aging creams, makeup removers, hairspray, gel, mousse, etc., hair accessories, nail polish, nail kit (nail files, cuticle scissors, buffers, etc.), hair dye

INSOURCED- Applying/using all necessary beauty products and toolsOUTSOURCED- Hair removal appointments- Haircut/blow-dry/color/highlights/straightening/extensions (hair, lashes)- Nail appointments- Facials/injection appointments- Tattoos- Piercings

Are you in charge of your own clothes and do you have appropriate clothes for all occasions? Do you feel good about yourself based on your expectations? Can you handle this yourself and not ask your partner to do it for you?

Grooming & Wardrobe (Player 2)

Grooming & Wardrobe (Player 2)

Imagine a conversation that starts innocently enough with a husband asking his wife, “Babe, where’s my black suit?” Then comes, “Never mind. Found it.” (Pause.) “Shoot, it doesn’t fit anymore.” And the coup de grâce is that their best friends’ wedding begins in one hour and the clock is ticking while he blames his wife for failing to buy or rent him a new one. This scenario is all too common as many women in hetero cis gender relationships CPE this card for their husbands. That’s right, grown men told me they rely on their wives not only to help them get dressed for special events but also to schedule haircuts, hem their pants, and replace their underwear with holes. If that truly works for you both, God bless. Otherwise, please consider taking this card for yourself, mister. You can do it.

GROOMING & WARDROBE (PLAYER TWO)

- Looking through own current wardrobe- Determining which clothes still fit and which might be outdated or worn out- Creating a list of clothing needs whether it be seasonal or by occasion- Evaluating underwear, socks, shoes, belts, and other accessories

- Donating wrong size, outdated, worn out items- Shopping for necessary items

Hard Questions (Kids)

Hard Questions (Kids)

“Why do I have hair growing under my armpits?” “What does it mean when the other kids talk about ‘doing it’?” Enough said. You and your partner may re-deal this card to each other based on the question at hand or which child is asking, but when it’s your turn, be prepared as best you can to research and impart thoughtful, accurate, and age-appropriate wisdom. Spoiler alert: The questions get tougher and the stakes get higher as your kids grow up.

ANSWERING HARD QUESTIONS

- Determining the appropriate age to discuss certain topics with your child (puberty, gender, sex/pornography, sexuality, drugs/alcohol, suicide, religion, family choices)- Connecting with friends who have older children to gather advice on how to introduce difficult topics- Consulting with doctors, professionals, and/or community resources when necessary

- Purchasing age-appropriate books to help educate your children- Being available for and open when answering your children’s questions

Are your children’s hard questions appropriately researched and answered in a way that feels good to both of you?

Health Insurance

Health Insurance

It’s a blessing to have health insurance. The paperwork that goes along with it? Not so much. Unless you somehow find a medical practice that handles all the billing for you, this cardholder needs to know every time anyone in your family goes to the doctor, makes sure the appropriate paperwork is filed for insurance, keeps track of reimbursements, and steps in when things go awry. Every time you see an envelope from your insurance provider (consult with the “mail” cardholder to ensure you receive), say a prayer that you’ve been covered.

HEALTH INSURANCE

- Determining health insurance options (work, exchange etc.)- Researching various plans (HMO, PPO, etc.) to determine if doctors, specialists, prescriptions, other special needs are covered- Establishing flexible spending plan/health savings account if appropriate

- Selecting and enrolling in plan during open enrollment window- Fighting for coverage/reimbursements from medical providers- Giving checks to “money manager” cardholder for deposit in bank account- Checking whether deductible is being met

If you are lucky enough to have health insurance, are your co-pays up to date and are you reimbursed in a timely manner?

Holiday Cards

Holiday Cards

Get ready to turn the already chaotic holidays into a job filled with a spreadsheet of personal contacts (did they move?), address labels, and the inevitable returned cards that haunt you until next year. The amount of time—even if you go digital with an e-card—is colossal. Not to mention the nearly impossible feat of taking a family picture with everyone looking in the same direction and smiling! But think about it: It’s the one time a year Cousin Susie sees a picture of your growing family. In other words, holiday cards can be a meaningful touch point that makes all the CPE well worth it.

HOLIDAY CARDS

- Obtaining appropriate photo from “memories and photos” cardholder- Creating address list and updating addresses if needed

- Printing labels or addressing envelopes- Purchasing stamps (or ask “mail” cardholder to provide)- Applying labels/stamps- Mailing cards

Did the cards arrive in the desired mailboxes at the appropriate time?

Holidays

Just the time it takes to get holiday ornaments out of storage and unwrap them merits a glass of wine (or three), and that’s before the hard work even begins. From cooking to decor to all the logistics, CPEing any holiday is like running an event-planning company—sans the paycheck. When the kids want to attempt their own impossible-to-make (but too-cute-to-resist) Halloween costumes, this cardholder will make the Magic happen. Same goes for figuring out who’s hosting Thanksgiving, organizing Easter brunch with second cousins twice removed, and every other holiday and special ritual that your family celebrates. Saving grace: “travel,” “gifts (family)” and “magical beings” cards are not included in this card. In other words, leaving cookies out for Santa isn’t on you.

- Conceiving a holiday plan (discussing with “travel and hosting” cardholders) for: - Family specialty dishes - Decorations/décor - Day of holiday festivities/rituals/family gatherings Exception: “gifts (family),” “gifts (VIPs),” and “magical beings” (e.g., Santa) are separate cards.

- Executing a holiday plan

Is the holiday reflective of your traditions that will create lasting memories and family nostalgia?

Home Furnishings

Home Furnishings

CPEing this card can be as basic as making sure that every bed has a pillow, you have towels in the closet, and the drinking glasses with cracks get replaced before someone chips a tooth. This card is not a one-time deal, as there’s regular inventory to be taken and just when you could use that 20 percent off Bed Bath and Beyond coupon, it’s nowhere to be found. Kindly discuss with the “points, miles, and coupons” cardholder so you’re buttoned up for your next trip to the store.

HOME FURNISHINGS

- Creating an inventory of what is needed- Researching items for price, look and functionality

- Purchasing items for the home: pots and pans, cutlery, dishes, towels, sheets, hand towels, pillows (beds, couches, etc.), mattresses, duvets, picture frames, candles, door mats, art/posters, appliances, bed frames, couches, dressers, chairs, dining room table, drapes/shades, kitchen table and chairs, stools, carpets/rugs, trash cans, bedside tables, lamps, coffee table items, book shelves, fireplace, and outdoor items.- Replacing broken/outdated items- Placing items in appropriate area in consultation with “organizing” cardholder

Once you agree on a plan for what your home should look like, is that plan implemented?

Home Goods and Supplies

Home Goods and Supplies

This card requires CPE of everything from laundry detergent, batteries, and lightbulbs, to toothpaste, coffee filters, and trash bags! Expect to be astounded by how your parents’ generation pulled this off without Amazon.

HOME GOODS & SUPPLIES (DG)

- Creating an inventory/making a master list (detergent, cleaning supplies, paper products, batteries, office supplies, bathroom supplies / toiletries/ Ziplock bags, Tupperware, lunch boxes)- Checking supplies for what is low

- Shopping- Loading and unloading goods/supplies- Placing items in appropriate area in consultation with “organizing” cardholder

Is there regular replenishment of home goods / are the goods & supplies there when you need them? Are they in the appropriate place when you need them? (i.e the toilet paper back on the holder)

Home Maintenance

Home Maintenance

How many people does it take to change a lightbulb? In this game, just one, and it’s the person holding this card. You’re also responsible for unclogging toilets, calling a repairman when the air conditioner breaks (inevitably in the height of summer), finding the manual for the vacuum cleaner that’s spewing dust, and every other home maintenance to-do that requires hands-on CPE.

HOME MAINTENANCE (DG)

- Making a master list and keeping track of weekly/monthly/annual home tasks that involve maintenance.- Sourcing (if applicable)

- Hiring- Ongoing communication and supervision- Making payments- Reimbursing to purchase suppliesOUTSOURCED- Hiring- Making payments- Communicating and supervising- Placing orders for parts/broken itemsINSOURCED (DIY FOR MAINTENANCE BELOW.)- Plumbing: toilet, sink, garbage disposal, water issues (filters, heater, softeners, mineral deposits, inspections), septic tank- Electrical: light bulbs, light fixtures, wiring- Interior: HVAC, air ducts, smoke detectors, vents, insulation, cabinets, appliance management, paint, fireplace/chimney, home security, exterminator- Exterior: roof/siding, tiles, gutters, power washing, pool(cleaning, draining, chemicals, pool skimmer, pool vacuum), exterior walkway cracks and paint, weather proofing, driveway (snow shoveling etc.)

Is there someone monitoring and timely handling repairs and upkeep in the home?

Home Purchase/Rental, Mortgage & Insurance

Home Purchase/Rental, Mortgage & Insurance

If you aspire to be a homeowner with a mortgage one day, then when the time comes, you’ll need to CPE the purchasing process. If you’re already a homeowner with a mortgage, this cardholder oversees title insurance, reviewing an infinite amount of statements, and possible refinancing. If you’re looking to rent, then you’ll be the one to scour listings, fill out applications, and furnish your credit score. You’ll also handle home insurance (whether you rent or own), including evaluating the appropriate policy and filing claims if needed. Grab this card fast if paperwork and record-keeping are your strong suits.

HOME PURCHASE/RENTAL, MORTGAGE & INSURANCE

- Researching neighborhoods (affordability consulting with “money manager” cardholder, local schools, parks, safety)- Selecting home Realtor or rental broker, mortgage broker/lender- Attending open houses and touring homes/apartments- Securing pre-approval from bank for loan (including managing appraisers)- Managing financial documentation (tax returns, bank statements, income verification)- Ensuring credit score is up to par- Budgeting for mortgage payment, property tax/insurance, assessments and other homeowner expenses- Researching homeowners/renters insurance and other possible other options (earthquake, flood, etc.)

- Making offer (process) and managing closing- Attending and managing inspections- Making down payment money available- Purchasing homeowners/renters insurance and possible other options

Do you have keys to your pad? Plus insurance for your home and most important items?

Home Renovation

Home Renovation

Wild cards fall on a spectrum in terms of how life-altering and time-consuming the predicament can be. Obviously installing new toilets or kitchen cabinets is not as serious an endeavor as keeping your newborn nourished or managing a parent’s chemotherapy schedule. Still, it sure would be nice to have a working toilet and a functional kitchen, so someone’s got to do the work to make that happen.

Homework, Projects & School Supplies (Kids)

Homework, Projects & School Supplies (Kids)

Has homework become a family affair? Even if you swore you’d never be the kind of parent who micromanages and digs in to your kids’ assignments, you at least need to be in the know if they don’t do their homework and be available if your child needs support. CPEing this card means not only taking the lead on daily assignments but also school projects and enrichment learning at home. If your child needs poster board for “Star Student of the Week” or munchies for “Snack Day,” that’s also on you, as well as outfitting your child for “Wacky Winter” dress-up day and providing two dozen (hand-signed!) Valentine’s Day cards on February 14. This is an endless job, so re-deal this card often.

HOMEWORK, PROJECTS, & SCHOOL SUPPLIES (DG)

- Supervising welcome-to-school assignments (e.g., photos of my family)- Assessing child’s daily/weekly homework needs- Helping child prioritize what needs to be done based on after-school activity schedule- Updating “calendar keeper” and “school breaks” cardholders on all important school dates including fall school recess, half days, conference weeks, winter break

- Assisting child when needed and providing emotional support when homework is challenging- Assisting child with studying for tests- Supporting and purchasing supplies for major projects (science fair, school biography, secret buddy gifts, Valentines, etc.)- Purchasing/arranging clothes for special days (e.g., school photos, performance concerts, field day, color wars, school theme days) and consulting with “morning routine” cardholder- Ordering school uniform if applicable- Ordering/shopping for back-to-school supplies

Are the kids supported enough so that they can turn their homework in on time?

Hosting

Whether it’s a backyard barbecue, potluck dinner, or any other get-together in your home or elsewhere, hosting often entails sending out invites, planning the menu, filling a vase with flowers, and setting the table (and maybe a separate one for the kids). The downside to holding this card: You may forget to have fun at your own shindig as you bend over backward to ensure everyone else does. The upside: no need for a workout on hosting days, as you will probably hit 10,000 steps before you sit down to eat (if you get to at all).

- Creating plan for the event- Curating guest list- Managing RSVPs- Coordinating what guests may bring

- Sending invitations- Purchasing/rentals: food, drinks, tableware, flowers, music, seating- Decorating (streamers, balloons, flowers, place cards, centerpieces, confetti)- Hiring servers/helpers- Setting up- Cleaning up

Did your guests have a good time and were their expectations met based on the event?

Informal Education (Kids)

Informal Education (Kids)

Do you remember who taught you how to hold your breath under water? Throw a ball? Ride a bike? Of course you do, and so will your child as soon as this cardholder gets to work. Kudos to you for the countless hours you’ll spend hovering over a bike seat with your back wrenched—that’s the Execution—but pay special attention to the Conception and Planning, as well. Start thinking now about those special milestone moments and life skills you want to teach your children. (Hint: If your kid is the only one in class still wearing Velcro sneakers, you might want to remedy that by teaching him to tie his shoes.)

INFORMAL EDUCATION

- Determining age-appropriate skills for children (e.g. shoe tying, buttoning a shirt, bike riding, etiquette/manners/how to write a thank you note, preparing a meal)- Setting a chores list as they grow (coordinate with the related cardholders)

- Implement plan to impart skills- Modeling chores/manners- Enforcing a chores list as they grow

Is your child developing age-appropriate life skills without too much stress?

Job Loss & Money Problems

Job Loss & Money Problems

Serious financial issues like unemployment or bankruptcy require heavy lifting that may include networking, job interviews, court appearances, and many other time-sucking items of business. Of course you’re both impacted by the stressful issue at hand, but this cardholder takes the lead on resolving it while consulting with the “money manager” so your family’s budget can be modified accordingly.

Laundry

f you haven’t ever CPE’d this card, would you like to take a guess at how many loads of laundry your family generates weekly? A freakin’ lot, that’s my guess. If you never go a day without clean socks and your daughter can always find her favorite rainbow shirt, then be sure to thank this cardholder, who not only throws the load in the washer and dryer but also folds it and puts it all away. If laundry tends to pile up and multiply in your home, it’s time to re-deal this card and come up with a new standard before the next cycle begins.

LAUNDRY (DG)

- Sorting clothes and reviewing clothing instructions (colors/whites/delicates)

- Spraying stains pre-wash- Washing/drying- Ironing/steaming- Hanging, folding, putting away

Are there laundered clothes when you need them where you need them in their place in the respective closets? (i.e not all over the floor or wrinkled in the dryer)

Lawn & Plants

Lawn & Plants

If you’ve got a lawn, a backyard or balcony vegetable garden, or just a struggling succulent by your kitchen window, then you know it takes careful CPE to keep your greenery alive, no less thriving. Even if you have a helpful gardener to lend you his or her green thumb, it’s still on you to keep an eye on limp or leggy plants that may need a shot of Miracle-Gro.

LAWN & PLANTS

- Researching appropriate plants for home (climate, sunlight exposure, seasonal, water usage/drought resistance)- Defining maintenance plan- Managing weather conditionsOUTSOURCED (LANDSCAPE, GARDENER, LAWN MOWER, ETC.)- Sourcing

- Executing maintenance plan- System control (sprinkler set-up, daylight saving times, stay apprised of local laws on watering)- Purchasing seeds, flowers, plants, fertilizer, sod, mulch, soil, shovels, gloves, trimming supplies, chain saw, wheel barrel- Lawn/garden maintenance (mowing, fertilizing, weeds and pesticides)- Pest control: monitor pet/animal/insect prevention- Pruning/trimming/raking/citrus removal: trees, bushes, flowers- Hiring- Paying- Managing and communicating (including access plan)

Are your plants/lawn alive with no safety hazards?

Magical Beings (Kids)

Magical Beings (Kids)

By holding this card, you hold the CPE required to keep your child’s dreams and imagination alive. When it comes to the Tooth Fairy, Elf on the Shelf, Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, the Mensch on a Bench, Saint Patrick’s Day leprechauns, the Switch Witch, or any other magical being that you introduce into your family, believing in the unbelievable disappears quickly. Put in the time and effort today to make the Magic come to life.

MAGICAL BEINGS

- Determining which being to introduce (e.g. Tooth Fairy, Santa Claus, Easter Bunny, Elf on the Shelf, Mensch on a Bench, Saint Patrick’s Day leprechauns, Switch Witch)- Preparing a plan for each being introduced- Setting alarm- Having magical being talks (real v. not real)

- Purchasing the magical being supplies- Executing plan

Does your kid believe in the chosen magical being until a reasonable age?

Mail

Does every item in your home have a proper place and is there a system to get them there? Are those that don’t get donated?

- Retrieving mail daily- Opening and sorting mail- Giving bills to “cash management and bills” cardholder, tax forms to “money manager” cardholder, invitations to “calendar keeper” cardholder, and health insurance forms to “health insurance” cardholder- Purchasing stamps- Mailing outgoing mail- Shipping and picking-up packages at post office

Is the mail coming in everyday and getting sorted in a timely manner? Do packages need to be picked up before they are shipped back to the sender?

Marriage & Romance

Marriage & Romance

#herofail is what one mom called it when her husband scheduled a series of surprise romantic dinners on Thursday nights not realizing that’s when she holds the “transportation (kids)” card for their daughter’s play rehearsals. Her husband’s heart was in the right place, but this card (like all of ’em) takes Conception, Planning, and Execution—emphasis needed on the Planning in his case. This cardholder might be the one who, for example, initiates a regular date night (on a night that works!). Planning for kid-free time can feel like a logistical nightmare (scheduling a sitter, coordinating calendars, and agreeing on details), but cardholders who pull it off report it’s well worth it.

MARRIAGE & ROMANCE

·     Conceiving of thoughtful gestures for your spouse (gifts, cooking a meal, a note, flowers)

·     Ensuring that time is set aside for just the two of you on a regular basis

·     Scheduling date nights, including making dinner reservations, show tickets etc.

·     Scheduling couple-only trips with “travel” cardholder

·     Planning time for intimacy

·      Executing consistent opportunities for fun and emotional connection

Is there a reasonable effort made to maintain you and your partner’s connection?

Meals (School Lunch)

Meals (School Lunch)

If you’re this cardholder, toss the idea of a relaxing night out the window because it’s time to start packing lunch for the kids. Don’t let all the #schoollunch pics on Instagram get you down. Your Fair Play Minimum Standard of Care could be a protein bar, an apple, and a bottle of water if that’s all your kid will eat. And even if your child’s school provides lunch, you still have to take the lead and sign up for this program and provide lunch money to cover pizza Fridays.

MEALS (SCHOOL LUNCH) (DG)

INSOURCED- Menu and snack planning and purchasing containers (give list of items needed to “home goods and supplies” cardholder or purchase yourself)OUTSOURCED- Log into school portal to order school lunch and/or add money to account (exception: all other school forms go to “school forms” cardholder)

- Preparing and packing into container (including filling daily water bottle and providing utensils/ice packs)- Staying apprised of what child is eating/not eating

Do the kids have a reasonably nutritious meal in their backpack every day and/or is it ordered and paid for (access to money)?

Meals (Weekday Breakfast)

Meals (Weekday Breakfast)

One mom I spoke to lamented that she’s held this card every single day since her kids were old enough to eat solids. Every. Single. Day. Prepare to frequently re-deal full CPE of this nonnegotiable Daily Grind unless serving oatmeal and toast at breakneck speed is your jam. Dishes left in the sink and milk spilled on the counter isn’t “on you” unless you hold the “dishes” and “tidying” cards. Still, be respectful before you zoom out the door.

MEALS (WEEKDAY BREAKFAST) (DG)

- Menu planning/recipe selection- Making lists of items needed (give to “groceries” cardholder with appropriate amount of time or purchase yourself)

- Cooking/preparing- Serving- Putting dishes in sink for “dishes” cardholder

Is your family fed a reasonably nutritious meal during the appropriate time window for each meal?

Meals (Weekday Dinner)

Meals (Weekday Dinner)

If you have never CPE’d dinnertime in a family with kids (particularly young ones), then no words can really do justice to this nightly circus. The ringleader plans a weekly menu, consults the “groceries” cardholder to have the ingredients at home, then cooks, ensures that the food actually gets eaten, and ideally uses this forced family time to have “quality” conversations about everyone’s day. Men: Kudos to you if cooking is one of your domestic contributions, but that’s just one word on this doozy of a card. Hero status isn’t awarded for just pulling out a frying pan.

MEALS (WEEKDAY DINNER) (DG)

Is your family fed a reasonably nutritious meal during the appropriate time window for each meal. (i.e Lunch at 4 pm doesn’t cut it when kids last ate at 8 am.)

Meals (Weekend)

Meals (Weekend)

Why do weekend meals feel more burdensome than weekday meals? Oh, let us count the ways. Maybe it’s because there are twice as many of them than on a school day. Perhaps it’s because they amplify the kitchen mess exponentially. Or because when you make it to Saturday night, you’re still only halfway there. Weekend meals deserve their own card—who wants it? Psst. Serving lunch at 4 p.m. doesn’t cut it unless midday meltdowns are your thing.

MEALS (WEEKEND)

- Menu planning/recipe selection- Making lists of items needed (give to “groceries” cardholder with appropriate amount of time or purchase yourself)- Determining meals eaten out or with friends/family

Are you monitoring the time and making sure your kids are being fed during the appropriate window?

Medical & Healthy Living (Kids)

Medical & Healthy Living (Kids)

From stocking up on standard pain relievers and regular checkups at the pediatrician to seeing specialists as needed, your kids’ medical care requires tremendous research, coordination, and time. Healthy living may also include buying vitamins and healthy snacks (in collaboration with the “groceries” cardholder) and inspiring an active lifestyle with family exercise or other heart-pumping activities. This cardholder also takes the lead stocking up on items like hand sanitizer, sunscreen, and bug spray. Exception: You’re off the hook from dealing with “health insurance” unless that’s your card, too.

MEDICAL & HEALTHY LIVING (KIDS) (DG)

- Researching, interviewing and selecting pediatrician- Scheduling well checks, vaccine appointments, and annual physicals- Ensuring that child has up-to-date vaccines- Keeping track of questions to ask doctor between well visits- Scheduling child’s sick visits- Determining if specialists are necessary (e.g., eye doctor, GI etc.)- Prevention: researching vitamins and sunscreen (for morning routine cardholder)- Encouraging active lifestyle for all family members, especially exercise- Ensuring that “groceries” cardholder is including plenty of healthy food options for adults and children

- Purchasing and stocking standard pain reliever/allergy medicines for children (and adults whenever possible)- Keeping specialty medicine up to date, including specialty items like EpiPen and asthma medications/nebulizers- Attending, and taking notes during well checks, vaccine appointments, and annual physicals- Attending child’s sick visits- Filling prescriptions, checking medicine side effects and administering medicine- Manage at-home medical issues such as constipation, sleeping issues, allergies, other GI, asthma, ENT, etc.- Purchasing vitamins and sunscreen- Monitoring family members’ consumption of caffeine, alcohol, fried foods, smoking habits, fatty foods- Encouraging calming behaviors/quiet times

Are you on top of your kids health concerns and do they go to their physicals on time?

Memories & Photos

Memories & Photos

God bless those parents who make photo albums every year and who can rest assured that if the basement flooded, all their old photos are scanned and backed up in the cloud. No need to aim that high, but if you hold this card, your family’s lifelong memories are nevertheless in your hands. When a photo collage is needed for “Student of the Week,” it’s time to cue the music . . . and kiss some of your time goodbye. When the boxes of your child’s artwork that you’ve been collecting since kindergarten threaten to take over every wall in your home, it’s time to consult with the “storage” and “organizing” cardholder. Do we keep it all or secretly recycle?

MEMORIES & PHOTOS

- Researching photo storage and back up options: cloud options by storage fees and functionality and/or hard drive- Signing up for cloud accounts including managing user name and passwords- Arranging family photo shoots

- Taking pictures- Organizing digital photos into folders- Creating photo books and/or printing photos- Digitizing old photos (scan, upload, file)- Creating home videos / photo montages

Are the appropriate photos readily accessible when you need them? Are you capturing memories you desire?

Middle of the Night Comfort (Kids)

Middle of the Night Comfort (Kids)

Define “middle of the night” as you see fit, because when daylight savings time hits, you may think of this as the “way too early to be morning” card that leaves you dog-tired and at your wit’s end. (It’s amazing how just one hour can do so much damage!) Bad dreams at 3 a.m., cries of “I can’t sleep!” just when you’re curled up in bed to watch TV, and help with trips to the toilet for that stomach bug going around are all in this cardholder’s hands. As one woman explained it, “When my husband has middle-of-the-night duty, I refer to this as the ‘Don’t call Mom’ card!”

MIDDLE-OF-THE-NIGHT COMFORT (DG)

·     Making yourself available for your children following bedtime routine, including:

·     Trouble falling asleep

·     Middle of the night feedings

·     Nightterrors

·     Bed-wetting

·     Researching, creating a plan, gathering input from partner about sleep training

·     Executing plan for sleep training

Do your kids have consistent access to a designated parent if middle-of-the-night issues arise?

Money Manager

Money Manager

If you’re taking the lead on this card, you are intrepid because managing a family’s budget is no small feat. Planning for the present and preparing for the future is a good start, but there’s so much more to CPEing this card. Short and long-time budgeting. Paying off debt. Retirement planning. College savings and 401(k) investments. And of course there’s also the fun that rolls around every April 15. Day-to-day “cash and bills” is a separate card, and these cardholders will collaborate often.

MONEY MANAGER

- Researching investments etc. (self)- Researching broker/investment adviser/online brokerage and all issues related to retirement, college, emergency funds etc.- Tax planning

- Managing investment accounts (including 401k/retirement and college funds) with financial adviser/online broker (in or Outsourced)- Managing family budget (income and expenses)- Tax receipt and form collecting and filing appropriate forms (self, tax preparation software, or with accountant)- Depositing checks in bank account

Do you have a budget / financial plan? Are you intentional about for planning for the future? Are you on the same page with paying off debt and are taxes filed on time (or an appropriate agreed up extension)?

Morning Routine (Kids)

Morning Routine (Kids)

When was the last time you slept in, pooped in peace, or leisurely read the newspaper while drinking coffee in the morning? Before kids, if you’re holding this card. This cardholder is prepared for daily combat before sunrise with a baby and early still with school-aged kids who often need rousing from bed and help getting dressed, hair and teeth brushed, sunscreen applied, and ushering out the door. At least the “meals (weekday breakfast)” cardholder takes the lead on getting them fed.

MORNING ROUTINE (DG)

- Ensuring children are up and getting ready for the day (dressed in appropriate, seasonal clothes, hair/teeth brushed, bathroom needs met)- Consulting with “homework, projects, and school supplies” cardholder for special clothes days

- Applying sunscreen- Taking vitamins/medicines

Are the kids appropriately hygienic and dressed for school? (i.e. when it’s 20 degrees out, shorts don’t cut it)

Moving

There’s a reason why moving is typically on the Top 10 list of hellish events; it can be as stressful as the death of a loved one, divorce, or unemployment. The process of purging, packing, relocating, organizing, storing, and living in disarray is all-consuming, disruptive to your family’s routines, and basically upends your life. Good news: It’s temporary. Bad news: It’s a CPE doozy. Who is better equipped to take the lead?

New Job

When you start a new job, you bring your A game daily, which may mean being the first one in, the last one to leave, working weekends, and doing whatever it takes to make an impression. Ask your partner to step up to the plate by taking some of your household and childcare cards while you concentrate on knocking it out of the park at work.

Packing & Unpacking (Kids, Local)

Packing & Unpacking (Kids, Local)

If you use the last diaper in the baby’s diaper bag and don’t replace it, how many diapers will be left the next time you need to change an explosive poop on the go? Exactly. It’s got to be restocked, just as backpacks need to be packed (and unpacked) daily with library books, lunch, homework, water bottles, clothes for after-school activities, and about a million other things you’ll forget if you don’t have a system in place. Bonus duties: packing for sleepovers, packing and replacing the change of clothes in the school cubby as needed, and hitting up the school’s lost and found when only one glove makes it home.

PACKING & UNPACKING (LOCAL) (DG)

BACKPACKAFTERNOON/DAY-OUT BAG- Taking inventory of afternoon out bags (water bottle, snacks, sunscreen etc.)SLEEPOVER- Determine what is needed for overnight bag (e.g., bathroom bag, clothing, sleeping needs, medical (e.g., Epi-Pen)) *Note: If it is a birthday celebration sleepover, keep the packing with the “birthday celebration (other kids)” cardholder who reads the invitation or coordinate closely.

BACKPACK- Backpack packing. including snack, water bottle, lunch box (prepared by “weekday (school lunches)” cardholder, homework, library books/textbooks/folders, special items- Backpack unpacking including emptying lunch box and placing in sink for “dishes” cardholder- Following up on lost items/lost and foundAFTERNOON/DAY-OUT BAG- Stocking afternoon out bagsSLEEPOVER- Overnight bag packing and unpacking

Do the bags contain what they need at the times you use them? Are they unpacked in a timely manner?

Packing & Unpacking (Travel)

Packing & Unpacking (Travel)

You’re not alone if packing for a trip with kids leaves you questioning if it’s worth going on the trip at all. It feels like moving the army, only your troops may be too young to pack and carry their own gear. Rookie mistake if just before takeoff you discover the iPad battery is at 1 percent.

PACKING & UNPACKING (TRAVEL)

- Creating a packing list, including “morning of” travel packing list (e.g., snacks, fully charged electronics, headphones, sleep accessories)- Packing list considerations: weather forecast and laundry opportunities- Determining suitcase needs and purchase when necessary (sharing/individual)- Downloading, reading, and managing sleepaway camp packing list (if applicable)

- Purchasing items needed- Actual packing- Updating addresses on luggage tags- Charging all electronics before flying- Getting children involved in packing carry-on items, special items/loveys, medicine- For sleepaway camp and extended travel: ordering labels/Sharpie and labeling clothing with children’s names- Printing or downloading tickets; making sure everyone who needs an ID has one- Filling car with gas if a road trip

Sure a forgotten item is common but is everything in the bags that you need or are you stuck purchasing items in a pinch on the road?

Parents & In-Laws

Parents & In-Laws

Whether your parents and/or in-laws live nearby or thousands of miles away, it’s a relationship that can require a fair amount of TLC and CPE. Someone’s got to call them regularly, help them figure out how to turn on their TV with one of their 100-year-old remotes, and invite them to holiday or birthday celebrations. (Or maybe not.)

PARENTS & IN-LAWS

- Plan for parent/in-law engagement- Calling/arrange for visits and visiting parents and in-laws an adequate amount (consult with “travel” cardholder)- Becoming familiar with parents’/in-laws’ health, including medical history, current medical issues, financial or other concerns

- Purchasing and have family members sign or decorate cards for important occasions (birthday, holiday, Mother’s/Father’s Day)- Handling parents/in-laws needs during their visits, including airport transportation, activity/meal planning, taking vacation days to spend time with them- Managing parents’/in-laws’ wishes for burial while alive- Educating on electronics/IT/other current issues

Do you agree on the role parents/in-laws have in your life? If not, can you agree on an reasonable role going forward?

Partner Coach

Partner Coach

Every time you help your loved one with his or her work, you are engaging in the highly invisible work of partner coaching. When you edit an email before your husband sends it to his boss, help him plan an important outing with a client, or lie in bed at night thinking through how he could be considered for a promotion, you are doing the loving and often unrecognized work of “coaching” your partner. This card can be one-sided (that is, a wife helping a husband but not the other way around). The aspiration is to hand off the card more equitably so both partners can benefit from each other’s support and advice.

PARTNER COACH

·     Consulting with spouse about what is needed to enrich career. Examples include the following:

o  Writing/editing/reviewing resume, emails, contracts, and other business-related correspondence

o  Fostering relationships with spouse’s boss/co-workers

o  Writing/editing/reviewing resumes, manuscripts, presentations, talking points, spreadsheets, speeches, and other work product.

·     Following through on what your partner needs and spending the appropriateamount of time doing so with your full attention.

Was your contribution timely, relevant and a priority?

Pets

When you got your pet, the deal was that the kids would take on a lot of the responsibility. Ha! Now, here you are with a bundle of furry love . . . and a bundle of work. Your to-do list depends on what kind of animal you have, but across the board this cardholder typically CPEs food, veterinary appointments, grooming, pet supplies, finding a pet sitter for when you’re away, and the least fun but most important—taking out the kitty litter or being on the ready with poop bag in hand.

- Researching pet type/breed- Finding breeder and or rescue/shelter, researching with breeder/shelter and communication- Animal proofing if needed- Researching and interviewing veterinarian- Arranging for receiving pet- Handling vet checkup appointments (e.g. necessary shots, spayed/neutered, nails, clipping, health concerns, medicine)- Handling vet sick appointments- Determining if it makes sense to purchase pet insurance and researching insurance plans- Finding a groomer and scheduling grooming appointments- Securing care during out-of-town travel/away times including researching options/ interviewing person or viewing facility- Hair pick up issues (researching vacuum options etc.)- Arranging for special outside access (e.g. dog door)- Researching and purchasing appropriate food

- Receiving pet- Purchasing food and treats and other necessary items (e.g. grooming items, bedding, crate, harness, litter- Training (bathroom, sleeping, biting and introduction to babies/children)- Feeding: Providing food and water daily and keeping bowls clean- Outdoor access and walking: Conducting appropriate amount of walks and exercise if applicable and/or scheduling dog walker/day care- Pick up poop/empty litter box daily and weekly maintenance- Bathing and brushing and/or attending grooming appointments- Cleaning up after pet (stays with this cardholder or consult with “tidying up, organizing, and donations”)

Are your pets healthy, groomed, and socialized?

Points, Miles & Coupons

Points, Miles & Coupons

Do you know if you have enough airline miles to fly free on your next trip? And also bring your partner along for the ride? This cardholder keeps track of miles, credit card points, coupons, and all those big money savers. Thoughtful CPE of this card is a must—getting that awesome “buy one, get three free” deal only happens when you have your coupon stash organized and in hand at the checkout line.

POINTS, MILES, & COUPONS

- Researching loyalty programs and credit cards

- Sourcing coupons (online/subscription, store flyers, local newspapers, apps, in mail)

- Creating electronic and/or in-home filing system to manage coupons

Can you use your miles, points or coupons because you have the accounts handy and before they expire?

Returns & Store Credits

Returns & Store Credits

If it seems as if there’s always something you’ve bought that needs to be returned or exchanged—typically without the receipt and on the opposite side of town—then this cardholder will be quite busy. Store credit? Gift cards from your mother-in-law? Sure, they were for your kids, but who’s gonna know if you used one to buy those cute shoes on sale?

RETURNS & STORE CREDITS

- Keeping track of items that need to be returned- Figuring out store return policy

- Returning items (within store policy window)- Donating or reselling items (if expired)- Purchasing items with store credits (within store policy window)- Managing gift cards and give to other cardholders such as “clothes and accessories (kids)” when appropriate for use

Did you return the items during the allotted store policy window? Do you know where your credits are?

School Breaks (Kids, Non-Summer)

School Breaks (Kids, Non-Summer)

For your kids’ non-summer vacations like winter and spring break, you have plenty of advance notice to plan. Still, don’t wait too long. The holidays creep up quickly. But when it comes to parent-teacher conferences, school construction, snow days, smoke days, and every other scenario that has you scrambling for childcare, this cardholder must be able to pivot quickly and CPE like a pro.

SCHOOL BREAKS (NON-SUMMER)

- Working in concert with “childcare helpers” cardholder to ensure appropriate childcare or camp- Planning for childcare/camps/playdates during breaks, half days, and days off

- Hiring (negotiating terms/contract)- Ongoing communication and supervision- Making payments- Purchasing/providing meals and snacks for helper- Reimbursing: Gas, meals, and other reimbursements- Termination issues

Are you prepared in advance for something other than 12 hours of screen time?

School Breaks (Kids, Summer)

School Breaks (Kids, Summer)

The CPEer of this card may begin researching options for camps or other summer activities months in advance. This workload lasts until the minute all the required forms and fees are taken care of and every day is covered (up to 90 days, but who’s counting?).

SCHOOL BREAKS (SUMMER)

- Determining day camp/sleepaway camp, family travel, summer school, activities/classes or home- Researching options for child’s interests, such as sports, theater, art, religion, cooking, science, education, etc., cost and transportation- Inquiring/coordinating with friends’ schedules- Mapping out each week of summer with “calendar keeper” to determine which activities fit which weeks, not conflicting with trips and other summer events

- Registering for camps- Purchasing necessary items for camp (mostly sleepaway)- Completing camp forms, including medical history, medication, transportation, medical consent, all about camper, bunk requests, etc.

Do your kids have plans you both feel good about (and are they signed up and registered for them if needed)?

School Forms (Kids)

School Forms (Kids)

Every freakin’ form from school that requires review, including your child’s enrollment forms, notices for overdue library books, and permission slips for field trips is now in your hands. School forms may come via email (check your spam folder), crumpled up in your child’s backpack, on a school website, or via the school portal, which you’re supposed to know how to log onto and navigate by now but remains one of life’s mysteries. School forms are enough for this cardholder; direct contact with teachers is the responsibility of the “teacher communication” cardholder.

SCHOOL FORMS

- Coordinate with “packing and unpacking (local)” and “homework, projects, and school supplies” cardholders to see if forms come in backpack/homework folder. Forms may include: - Back-to-school packets including special instructions, birth certificate, medical forms, including immunization records, allergy notifications (including having third parties sign, such as doctors, etc.) - Field trip permission slips - Random surveys for class participation/allergy Parent questionnaires - School photo order forms - Book fair order forms - Enrollment contracts - Overdue notices for library books - Accessing report card through school portal Exception: School lunch forms go to “meals (school lunch)” cardholder

- Managing log in and password for school portal- Fill out forms (with child if applicable)

Are those forms still crumpled up in the backpack or they filled out on time?

School Service (Kids)

School Service (Kids)

When you agreed to chaperone the museum field trip, it seemed like a worthwhile opportunity to spend time with your child and his classmates. Which it was . . . until you found yourself sitting at the back of a school bus trying not to puke. This card pulls you into a time-sucking vortex that includes reading through a chain of 43 emails (was “reply all” really necessary?), school-sponsored lectures (another one?), and baking cupcakes (nut free?). And what’s up with schools requesting volunteers to be class “moms”? Dads make excellent class parents, too, ya know.

SCHOOL SERVICE (KIDS)

- Researching volunteer opportunities, which might include the following: - Class parties - Stuffing folders - Community service projects - Admin work for teachers/school staff - Serving as room parent - Working with students in small groups - Baking for teachers/food for teachers - Art fairs - Book fairs - Talent shows - School picnics and potlucks - Field day - STEM night - Musical/choir/band/strings concerts - Social parents’ nights out - Field trip chaperone - Lunch, snack, carpool line duty - PTA - Spirit wear - School fundraisers (bake sales, lemonade stands, etc.) - School improvement projects (painting murals, etc.)- Signing up for your commitment/arranging childcare for other children (if applicable)

- Showing up for and fulfilling your commitments

If this card is important to you both, are you an appropriately active and responsive member of your school community?

School Transitions

School Transitions

If your child needs to apply to a new school (kindergarten through college), this card may include tours, filling out applications, writing essays, ordering transcripts, test preps for the ACT and SAT, and more. And that work only begins after you’ve completed loads of research about where to apply, considered what might be the best fit for your child, and created your best chances to get in. (Is the lottery really just a lottery? Better find out.)

SCHOOL TRANSITIONS (KIDS)

- Researching potential school options for child- Scheduling any necessary academic testing (SAT/ACT)- Requesting forms from current school (transcripts etc.)- Researching testing prep opportunities

- Touring schools- Completing and submitting school applications or open-enrollment forms- Attending any mandatory informational meetings or additional get-to-know-you events (e.g. school fundraisers)- Signing up for testing prep opportunities

Are you in charge of the processes necessary for your child to transition to a new school?

Self-Care (Player 1)

Self-Care (Player 1)

Each of you gets a self-care card regardless of how many children and other responsibilities you have. For some, a daily multivitamin, a good book, and a hot bath fit the bill. Others may have weekly therapy or wellness appointments, and also set aside regular time to exercise. No guilt or shame allowed. Take this important time for you and allow your partner to do the same.

SELF-CARE (PLAYER ONE)

- Determining self-care plan, possibly including the following: - Nutrition/supplements - Exercise routine - Doctor and dental appointments (annual physical and mammogram, bloodwork, dental exam/cleaning, ophthalmology, GI, other specialists) - Medications - Massage/acupuncture - Meditation/quiet time/relaxing (TV)/reading - Baths

Do each of you feel reasonably well?

Self-Care (Player 2)

Self-Care (Player 2)

SELF-CARE (PLAYER TWO)

- Determining self-care plan, possibly including: - Nutrition/supplements - Exercise routine - Doctor and dental appointments (annual physical, bloodwork, dental exam/cleaning, ophthalmology, GI, prostate, other specialists) - Medications - Massage/acupuncture - Meditation/quiet time/relaxing (TV)/reading - Baths

Serious Illness

Serious Illness

When a child falls ill, the implications can be life changing. If you are managing someone else’s illness, it can require hours of research, doctors’ appointments, treatment plans, and medication monitoring. Thankfully, you can ask your partner to step in and support you. If, however, it’s you or your spouse who is ill, the healthier person may need to take on more cards in addition to holding this Wild card. Rather than allowing resentment or fear to build, ask for what you need and re-deal as circumstances change.

Showing Up & Participating

Showing Up & Participating

One dad admits that he spent nearly a month complaining about the daddy/daughter dance at school, dreading everything from the small talk with other dads to the awkwardness of busting out his moves. Ultimately he went, and it turned out to be pure Magic for both him and his growing-up-too-fast fourth grader. You’ve got to show up for and participate in your child’s events, big and small, for the Magic to happen. Re-deal this card frequently to make sure it does.

SHOWING UP & PARTICIPATING

*Note: No CPE other than showing up on time. Play this card to feel included but not to have to do any of the work of the other cardholders.

·     Attending (on time) children’s games, shows, recitals, and otherspecial presentations, curriculum/development/education nights

Are you on time when you say you are going to be?

Social Plans (Couple)

Social Plans (Couple)

In theory, it’s as simple as texting your friends to get together, picking a date/time/place, and showing up. But that’s not how it works in real life, and certainly not how it works after having kids. For starters, you want your partner’s buy-in for who you’re getting together with, and you’ll need to get a babysitter, so consult with the “childcare helpers” cardholder. Then, syncing calendars (pre-bedtime? after the championship game?) will make you question if it’s really worth the effort. If you actually make it out the door without cancelling, you have earned a bonus cocktail.

SOCIAL PLANS (COUPLES)

- RSVPing to party/night out invitations- Discussing with partner who you both would like to see- Reaching out to friends/colleagues seeking plans- Coordinating schedules- Determining restaurant/event interest- Designating alcohol-free driver or calling an Uber

- Working with “childcare helpers” cardholder to confirm babysitter- Making reservations- Purchasing tickets to events

While there may be one more extroverted partner, is it reasonable to expect to socialize with other couples on occasion? Try to agree to a mutual comfort.

Special Needs & Mental Health (Kids)

Special Needs & Mental Health (Kids)

Obviously this card needs to be CPE’d with tremendous care if your child has special needs or mental health issues. From identifying the problem to finding the best resources, scheduling appointments, monitoring medication, planning treatment, handling a school IEP, and beyond, this cardholder will steer the ship that guides your child safely and with love. It takes a village, so your Planning should include how to utilize any help from your wider support system to create an environment that fosters progress.

SPECIAL NEEDS & MENTAL HEALTH (KIDS) (DG)

- Identifying and evaluating child’s current emotional state/special needs- Doctor/professional appointments for diagnosis and follow up- Researching and interviewing specialists for treatment such as therapists, OT, PT, speech- Discussing issues/treatment plan with child's teacher (consulting with “teacher communication” cardholder)- Scheduling specialist appointments- Educating oneself, teachers, childcare helpers, other parents and child on issue/risks/special needs/ancillary issues like bullying (options may include: books, seminars, find support groups for you and your child or start a support group)OTHER THINGS TO NOTE IF CHILD HAS AN ALLERGY/FOOD SENSITIVITY):- Educating oneself and others on how best to read food labels- Scheduling meetings with teacher- Creating a notebook to have in classroom with info on what child can/can't eat- Pre-planning for birthday parties and other events that involve bringing own snacks- Calling before parties and restaurants to find out what will be served or what options there are- Researching safe restaurants/deliver menus for childcare helpers

- Working closely with “health insurance” cardholder to get coverage and medications for the issue- Advocating and meeting with school educators to secure necessary supports (i.e., IEP)- Supporting child- Attending specialist appointments(OTHER THINGS TO NOTE IF IT IS AN ALLERGY/FOOD SENSITIVITY):- Purchasing EpiPen if needed (or coordinating with “medical and healthy living” cardholder)- Packing a snack bin for classroom with safe alternative snacks- Meeting with the school nurse- Asking school to inform other parents to let them know who your child is and what is safe and unsafe for them to eat since they may be volunteering in classroom or sending in treats- Purchasing apps that have information for grocery shopping and restaurant finding- Always have safe snacks on hand

Are they getting the available support to maximize their productivity and potential?

Spirituality

Spirituality

This card looks and feels different to everyone—perhaps even within your own home—so all the more reason you should consult your partner in the Planning to make sure you’re on the same page. (Ahem, you don’t have carte blanche to join a cult just because it’s your card.) It may involve attending church/synagogue/mosque, planning events like communion or a bar/bat mitzvah, establishing a relationship with clergy members, enforcing dietary beliefs, creating a family meditation ritual, or any number of ways you decide to make spirituality a part of your family’s life.

SPIRITUALITY

·     Researching local churches/temples/synagogues/spiritual centers in your area

·     Registering for Sunday school / Hebrew school / confirmation class*

·     Attending religious services on holidays or weekly

·     Educating children / rituals in the home

·     Buying high holiday tickets (if applicable)

Is your life one where there is a practice of a higher purpose? Does it include your children?

Storage, Garage, & Seasonal Items

Storage, Garage, & Seasonal Items

If you have a storage unit or a garage, do you have any idea what’s inside it? If not, now is the time to get it organized and have a CPE plan in place before someone asks, “Honey, where’s Zach’s sleeping bag? He has a sleepover tonight.”

STORAGE, GARAGE, & SEASONAL ITEMS

·     Inventory management of summer/beach/lake/camping/

·     bikes/pool items or winter items

·     Researching and renting storage unit

·     Managing items in garage (place in bins, racks, shelving etc.) orgive away to “tidying up, organizing, and donations” cardholder)

·     Tidy shelves and storage in garage

·     Air in bicycle tires, sports balls, pool rafts

·     Organize sports, ski, and camping equipment and/or luggage

Is the garage or unit reasonably organized? Can you find things when you need them?

Teacher Communication (Kids)

Teacher Communication (Kids)

Every teacher and child is different, so this cardholder’s responsibility could be as minimal as showing up to the parent-teacher conference once or twice a year. Or your communication may involve a weekly email exchange or speaking daily and face-to-face to discuss homework and your child’s unique learning needs. As the CPEer, it’s up to you to proactively keep tabs on your kiddos in their school environment to identify potential challenges and work with their teachers to help them thrive.

TEACHER COMMUNICATION

- Receiving and reading teacher emails- Scheduling parent-teacher conferences

- Notifying child of important issues- Monitoring academic progress, behavior, socialization and school absences- Attending parent-teacher conferences- Executing teacher recommendations/items to work on with child- Communicating plan to Homework and/or Tutoring and Coaching card holder

Are you communicating consistently enough to troubleshoot and be proactive in identifying potential challenges?

Thank You Notes

Thank You Notes

Why would the dreaded task of writing thank-you notes be considered Magic? Because thank-you notes are an opportunity to express gratitude to people who inspire you to feel it. If you have family dinner with friends, you might send an email letting them know how wonderful it was to spend time together. When a colleague delivers a huge bag of hand-me-downs for your kids, that thoughtfulness merits a note. Imagine a life where sleep-deprived postpartum moms are not saddled with writing thank-you notes for baby gifts. That can be your reality, as either partner is capable of CPEing this card.

THANK YOU NOTES

·     Obtaining appropriate information

·     Creating address list and updating addresses if needed

·     Printing labels or addressing envelopes

·     Purchasing stamps (or ask “mail” cardholder to provide)

·     Applying labels/stamps

·     Mailing cards

Tidying up, Organizing & Donations

Tidying up, Organizing & Donations

This never-ending work includes making beds, putting toys away, finding the Legos under the couch (preferably before you buy a whole new set), and wrapping up the half a banana sitting on the counter before fruit flies infest your home. This 784card is a hot-button issue for many couples who often disagree on a standard for “tidy,” so before one of you claims it, get specific about how long you can both live with the toy closet that’s bursting at the seams, all the random crap accumulating under the stairwell, and the donation bags that have been sitting in the trunk of the family car for months. Unless your aspiration is to star on Hoarders (and your partner agrees to costar), you may want to binge a few episodes of Tidying Up with Marie Kondo.

TIDYING UP, ORGANIZING & DONATIONS (DG)

- Developing a system for organizing your physical home: closets, kitchen/pantry, bedrooms, playroom, office etc. and digital home: organizing computer files in consultation with “memories and photos” cardholder- Taking stock of what children are currently playing with and what you can donate/ hand down- Creating list of donated items and value for tax purposes- Researching options for where items will be donated or family/friends to hand down to- Identifying storage needs and measuring storage space

- Clearing/wiping counters- Putting away toys and shoes- Tidying throw blankets and pillows- Safely storing important documents, including birth certificates, passports and Social Security cards- Gathering items to be donated from “clothes and accessories (kids)” and “wardrobe (her/his)” cardholders- Dropping off donations- Purchasing storage and organizational containers- Putting together/building storage container

Transportation (Kids)

Transportation (Kids)

Full. Time. Job. Whether your kids take a bus, carpool, walk, or have a chauffeur (aka you), managing their transportation can be a beast. On any given day, you could be spending countless hours transporting your kids to school or coordinating with those who are pitching in with drop-offs and pickups. Add on getting them to and from playdates, after-school activities, camp, and every other place they need to be seven days a week and we’ve come full circle: Full. Time. Job. Note! The “transportation (kids)” card pairs with “birthday celebrations (other kids),” “friendships and social media (kids),” “extracurricular (non-sports),” and “extracurricular (sports).” Meaning, if you hold any of the aforementioned cards and they involve giving your kid a ride, you are responsible for transporting or arranging for transportation to and from those activities.

TRANSPORTATION (KIDS)

- Coordinating and implementing the commute to/from school, extracurricular activities, enrichment, events, playdates, parties- If school bus, signing up for appropriate route- If public transportation, securing bus/subway pass- If carpool, extra considerations: selecting families that live nearby to carpool with (coordinate booster/car seats); determining schedule for your shift and others’- Finalizing daily schedule with “calendar keeper”

- Implementing the commute to/from school, extracurricular activities, enrichment, events, playdates, parties

Are the children where they need to be and picked up on time?

Travel

When you’re thinking about taking a trip, the who/where/ when/how formula has endless permutations. If you add in any extended family, best of luck as you navigate how to get everyone to the same place at the same time on a budget, where hopefully fun awaits. Even a day trip for a friend’s wedding requires someone to handle logistics, so just because you’re not jet-setting to a white sand beach doesn’t mean you’re off the hook from CPEing this card. Tip! Work closely with the “packing and unpacking (travel)” cardholder to ensure that once you get to your destination, you have the appropriate clothes and amenities in your suitcase.

- Sourcing vacation ideas (adult only or family, warm or cold climate, relaxation or adventure, domestic or international)- Researching potential destinations including airfare, hotel, transportation, activities, dining, health or other travel alerts- Securing/renewing/checking expiration for everyone’s passports- Discussing how much vacation time can be used from work- Selecting dates for travel (that work for everyone including kids in school)- Calling hotel concierge for dining/activity recommendations- Researching (asking friends, internet, books) activities and dining out- Working with “points, miles, and coupons” cardholder to redeem miles

- Checking in to flights- Making flight/hotel/rental car (car seats, if necessary) reservations and confirming prior to travel- Purchasing travel insurance- Making reservations for activities and dining out

Did everyone get to where they were supposed to be without unreasonable stress?

Tutoring & Coaching

Tutoring & Coaching

Take this card if you take the lead on extra school enrichment and/or you are the coach of your kids’ Little League teams. Some families utilize school-based options while others pursue tutoring companies outside of school or hire tutors/ coaches for kids’ academics, sports, or special interests like playing a musical instrument. In every case, this cardholder needs to research the options, confirm availability with the “calendar keeper,” and assess progress on an ongoing basis. If your kid still can’t hit the ball, it might be time for a new coach . . . or a new sport.

TUTORING & COACHING

TUTORING- Evaluating if child needs extra supports (discussing with “teacher communication” cardholder)- Researching school-based options for additional support- Researching/scheduling a consistent time to conduct enrichment/determining if you practice or reinforce with childCOACHING- Appraising child’s/team’s needs (voice, sports etc.)- Researching external coaches- Reviewing weekend schedule (working with calendar keeper to see what periods of time are open for plans)- Checking weather forecast- Asking family members for ideas- Coordinating with friends and family

TUTORING- Hiring external tutor/signing up for tutoring program/practice or reinforce with child- Purchasing school enrichment materialsCOACHING- Hiring external coaches and or/ signing up/registering/conducting your coaching

If this card is in play, are you up to date and working on progress you want your child to make?

Unicorn Space

Unicorn Space

What makes you uniquely you and how do you share it with the world? Unicorn Space is about the passion and purpose that drive you to be the best version of yourself, and what’s on the line—your identity, fulfillment, and marriage—if you don’t nurture what makes you come alive. It may seem like a fairy tale to carve out time to get back to playing piano again or research the business idea that you’ve back-burnered since becoming a parent, but it’s time to reclaim your gifts beyond your career and family without needing permission or feeling guilt. Note: An exercise class, a mani/pedi, hitting a sports bar with a buddy, or catching up on your social media feeds are not Unicorn Space. Your career may be if it’s a Category 5 storm of passion. Be realistic, but think big as you work to discover or reclaim your essence and talents. Both you and your partner must take this card!

Unicorn Space is about the passion and purpose that drive you to be the best version of yourself. You and your partner must take this card!

·     Identify a passion – what would you like to create more time and mental and physical space for today?

·     Plan to share it with the world – when your Unicorn Space goes beyond yourself, it becomes so much bigger than that much more fulfilling.

·     Set a goal – put yourself on a committed schedule that includes a specific timeline by which you will reveal it to others.

·     Get your partner’s support and support them in return.

·     Schedule a weekly time for your Unicorn Space and prioritize it!

·     Be sure your partner is also setting aside the same amount of time for their Unicorn Space each week, and do your part to allow them that time.

·     Reclaim your gifts beyond your family and career without needing permission.

·     Don’t allow guilt, shame or “domestic encroachment” to cause you to miss your scheduled time.

·     Share your Unicorn Space with the world!

Did each of you get to focus on one thing this week outside your roles as a parent, partner and/or professional?

Values & Good Deeds (Kids)

Values & Good Deeds (Kids)

You know those families who you look up to because the kids have rock-solid values? This kind of Magic takes time and consistency. In other words, one visit to the soup kitchen does not a good kid make. If you want to be the family who feeds the homeless every Thanksgiving, start researching places to volunteer. If you want to make birthdays feel special without any semblance of materialism, start a tradition like a family hug on the time your child was born. (Unless it’s in the middle of the night—then wait until the morning.) Soon you’ll be the family who everyone else is talking about for the right reasons.

VALUES & GOOD DEEDS (KIDS)

·     Considering values to impart

·     Researching allowance and consulting with “cash and bills” cardholder (spend, save, charity jars)

·     Researching and scheduling family giving-back/community service opportunities

·     Attending family giving-back/community service opportunities

·     Modeling values

Do your kids feel good about what they contribute to the community?

Watching (Kids)

Watching (Kids)

If you have a little one, then you know that having eyes on your child is endless at the baby/toddler stage. Older children need watching, too, like preventing your ten-year-old from spraying WD-40 all over the living room when he mistakes it for air freshener (true story), or walking by your teen’s bedroom door constantly to make sure it’s open while a “friend” is over. Good news: It’s amazing what can happen when you put down your phone and really watch your kids. Watching a one-year-old may feel uneventful, but this is when you witness your child’s first steps! Depending on what time of day you hold this card and the age of your child, you may also be responsible for taking the lead on a number of other cards, such as “diapering and potty training,” “bedtime routine,” “meals” “transportation (kids),” and “tidying up.” (If you build a fort in your living room while you’re on “watch,” then it’s only fair that you break it down and tidy up before re-dealing this card to your spouse or other caregivers.)

WATCHING (DG)

BABY/TODDLER

·     Every minute (other cards you may be holding: “morning routine,” “fun & playing,”various “meals,” “diapering & potty training,” “transportation,” “bathing &grooming (kids),” “extra-curricular,” “bedtime routine”)

·     (other cards you may be holding: “morning routine,” “fun & playing,” various“meals,” “discipline & screen time,” “transportation,” “bathing &grooming (kids),” “friendship & social media,” “extra-curricular,” “bedtime routine”)

·     (other cards you may be holding: “morning routine,” “fun & playing,” various“meals,” “discipline & screen time,” “transportation,” “bathing &grooming (kids),” “friendship & social media” (extra sensitive if a“friend” is more than a friend), “extra-curricular”)

·     Executing the plan for watching with full attention

When under your watch is the child safe, appropriately fed and are you reasonably present and spending time on activities consistent and intentionally aligned with your family standards?

Weekend Plans

Weekend Plans

Socializing as a family can check off several boxes, including getting your kids out of the house and off screens, seeing your friends, and your kids seeing their friends. (Lucky for you if you like the parents of your kids’ BFFs.) But all this box checking requires much CPE, so think it through before you offer to organize a picnic in the park for your BFFs and the twenty kids among them.

WEEKEND PLANS (FAMILY)

- Reviewing weekend schedule (working with “calendar keeper” cardholder to see what periods of time are open for plans)

- Checking weather forecast- Asking family members for ideas

- Coordinating with friends and family

- Communicating the plan to your family

- Executing the plan for the weekend

No, twelve hours of screen time is not reasonable, and neither is being so overscheduled you want to scream. Like Goldilocks, do you have plans once the weekend comes that feel just right?

Welcoming a Child Into The Home

Welcoming a Child Into The Home

Never mind how often you’re puking and falling asleep on the couch by 6 p.m. Preparing for a baby increases your mental, physical, and emotional load exponentially. While you’re going to constant doctors’ appointments, registering for baby products that you never even knew existed (a Boppy pillow?) or that you would need (Nursing bras?), and listening to unwanted parenting advice from every other woman shopping in the baby basics aisle, ask your more hormonally balanced partner to take some additional cards. Ask him to hold on to them while you’re in labor because, um, you’re in labor. And while he’s at it, he may just as well hold on to them while you recover from giving birth.

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12 Activities to Teach Responsibility to Kids of All Ages

Learning responsibility through activities is fun.

Teaching kids responsibility at home isn’t an easy task, but fun activities can make the job more enjoyable for all.

When you teach responsibility through hands-on activities, you make a hard-to-grasp concept easier to digest and put into practice.

Let’s look at a few creative options!

Preschool and Kindergarten Activities

Teaching responsibility to kindergarten students, or possibly even preschoolers, may sound like a big task. 

Fortunately, since smaller children learn better by doing, engaging them in fun activities to teach responsibility is very effective—and fun! 

Role Play Responsible Behavior

You’ve probably noticed that little kids love to pretend. 

At an early age, you’ll hear “Mommy” and “Daddy” voices coming from the playroom as your children act out familiar roles. 

You can use this natural tendency toward imitation to teach them responsibility. 

If you have specific lessons on responsibility that you want to illustrate, write simple scripts for them to follow. Since younger kids may not be reading yet, have them repeat after you. 

Likewise, you can brainstorm different scenarios to demonstrate your point. Present them to your students and allow them to improvise.

It might go something like this:

“Pretend like Mommy says to take only one cookie at snack time so that everyone gets one. But you really want two cookies. What should you do?” 

“Next, pretend that you’re the mom this time, and you just saw someone take two cookies instead of one. Now you don’t have enough to give to everyone. What would you do?”

This kind of role-playing can help your child understand the need for responsible behavior from a different point of view. 

Play Simon Says

Games are also a great way to instruct younger kids without them even realizing they’re learning.

As you probably know, Simon Says is a classic game where one child (or the parent) shouts commands quickly to a group. 

Commands not prefaced with “Simon says” should be ignored. Any player who follows a command that doesn’t start with “Simon says” is “out.” 

As the leader issues commands more and more quickly, the players must work hard to control their impulses and think before they act. 

Even children known for always acting on their impulses try to prevent the consequences of looking silly. 

To avoid being the only player quacking like a duck because “Simon didn’t say,” they’re motivated to think before taking action.

Ask Them to Be Your Big Helper on a Special Project

Another way to teach children about responsibility is to present them with an opportunity to show you how capable they can be.

Create a project, think through its parts, and determine age-appropriate tasks your child can handle as your “big helper.” 

Assisting you with a real project allows your children to experience that sense of satisfaction that comes from a job well done. 

In this way, responsibility becomes its own reward.

Elementary Activities

Once your child reaches elementary level, exciting new ways to teach responsibility unfold.  

Reading ability and more advanced social awareness allow responsibility activities for elementary students to include higher-level interaction.

Do Word Searches with “Responsible” Terms

Once your children start reading, you can incorporate word searches with responsibility-related terms into your lessons. 

Using an online word search generator, try creating a word search activity with synonyms for “responsible,” such as:

  • Trustworthy
  • Accountable
  • Conscientious

You can also include terms related to learning responsibility, such as:

  • Citizenship
  • Consequences

Finding and circling related words reinforces important responsibility language, making it part of their regular vocabulary.

Play a Teamwork Game

Cooperation is a key component of responsibility. 

Collaborating on a challenge with teammates while participating in a teamwork game hones important cooperation skills. 

Some examples of teamwork games for elementary students are:

Flipping the Sheet 

Flipping the Sheet is a game in which each team stands on a sheet. Players must work together to figure out how to flip the sheet over without moving their bodies off of the sheet. 

Marshmallow and Toothpick Game 

In this teamwork game, you provide each team with marshmallows and toothpicks (or dried spaghetti noodles). 

Each team has the same amount of material, and their challenge is to create the highest structure in a limited amount of time. 

To boost the effect of teamwork games, incorporate the selection of team leaders.

 After all, leadership skills are an essential part of learning to be responsible.

Color Pictures That Depict Responsible Behavior

For a more subdued but still fun responsibility activity, look no further than classic coloring pages.

Color pictures of people behaving responsibly and helping others can really help students picture what responsibility looks like in action.

Even better if you discuss the behavior represented as they color. 

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Middle school activities.

As your child gets older, responsibility activities for middle school can now include multiple steps and be somewhat more involved. 

Let’s look at a few ideas. 

Assign Relevant Writing Prompts

At this level, your middle school student’s ability to write essays and short stories expands your options for teachable moments. 

I always loved writing prompts in our homeschool for the creative outlets and learning opportunities they provided. 

You can spark their imagination with thoughtful questions about how to handle situations where dilemmas involving responsibility arise. 

If you so choose, you can even incorporate events or experiences in their family, community, or the world at large.

Provide Worksheets That Explore “What Would You Do?” Scenarios

Responsibility worksheets for kids provide a chance to answer questions about responsibility in short or long formats. 

The worksheets can range from simple graphic activities—like circling or crossing out— to multiple choice questions, problem solving, or essay writing.

Assign a Fun Project with a Deadline (and Let Them Own It)

If you’re looking for something more hands-on that teaches them how to be responsible, assign a project—and make it a fun one!

A fun project with a deadline teaches time management and accountability—both of which are crucial to responsibility. 

Help your child use a calendar to break the project into steps and talk about ways to stay on track in order to meet the deadline. 

It’s important to make this a project he or she can look forward to. 

It’s not so much what your child learns from the project’s subject matter as it is about taking ownership of a task and seeing it through to the finish line.

High School Activities

Once your child becomes a teenager, responsibility activities for high school can draw on real life situations. 

Personal responsibility activities for teens should start to focus more on family and community as well as their part in the world.

Give Them a Task to Teach a Younger Sibling

Teaching a younger sibling is a wonderful way to teach leadership skills. As previously mentioned, leadership skills are important in learning responsibility. 

He will also be at least somewhat accountable for his sibling’s success, which adds a whole new level of responsibility.

Participate in a Community Play or Sport

High school is also a good time to foster your child’s involvement in community activities, such as sports and debate clubs. 

Being part of a team that’s working to achieve a common goal—be it winning a soccer game or tactfully delivering an argument—teaches your teens responsibility in several ways. 

They’ll learn not to quit when the going gets tough and how to participate in something larger than themselves.

They’ll also discover the importance of being reliable and what it means to give their best effort for the benefit of all. 

Finally, getting a real job is a true test in learning adult responsibility. Working for someone else provides a whole new perspective of your young adult’s place in the world. 

Among other things, he or she will need to manage time, cooperate with others, follow new rules communicated by an authority figure, and learn to manage money.

As you know, children learn best by action and real-life reinforcement. 

Whether your kids are just out of toddlerhood or on the verge or adulthood, activities to teach children responsibility are a wonderful supplement to traditional lessons. 

Enhancing their education in responsibility with hands-on, engaging activities provides more opportunities for them to practice becoming responsible citizens.

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I know of an incredible tale—filled with mystery, danger, and suspense—that teaches responsibility, humility, and more.

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How to Use Task Cards – 8 Fun Ideas for Upper Elementary

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If you have taught upper elementary sometime over these past 5 years, chances are you have come across somebody that uses task cards for fun review or extra practice. Or you might use them yourself. You've also probably come across somebody that hates task cards.

Although some people complain that task cards are glorified worksheets (and they could be right, depending on how you use them), task cards are very useful because they are so versatile. Below are several ideas for using task cards with your 3rd grade, 4th grade, or 5th grade students.

Task cards are good to always have on hand, because there are so many different ways to use them!  They are similar to these reusable activities in that way.

Fun Ways to Use Task Cards with 3rd, 4th, and 5th Grade Students

1. scavenger hunt.

This was my favorite way to use task cards in the classroom, even though it is not technically a true scavenger hunt.

Spread the task cards around the room (or have a few students do this for you). Then, have students walk around the room with their answer sheet looking for the different task cards.

This is a great opportunity to have students work with partners.  Have one student read the task card aloud, while the other student writes the answer.  For the next task card, students switch roles.

Setting up clear expectations will, as always, help you avoid many behavior problems.  Make sure 3rd, 4th, and 5th grade students are aware of:

  • how you expect them to move around the classroom
  • who and how they should talk to other peers
  • how many group can be at one task card at a time
  • what to do when they finish

If you like activities that give your students a chance to get up and moving while still working, then consider having a snowball fight in your classroom.  

2. I Do, We Do, You Do

Most task cards are GREAT for the gradual release of responsibility model.

For “I Do,” use several task cards to model to students a certain strategy. Explain your thinking using think-alouds.

Then, for “We Do,” complete a few task cards with the help of your students. You can also have small groups or partners work together on a few task cards.

Finally, have students independently complete a task card for the “I Do.”

3. Have Students Work with a Volunteer or Para

If you are anything like me, then you struggle with how best to use any help you receive from paraprofessionals or parent volunteers. The help I received came so inconsistently that it was difficult to set up routines.

If you have several sets of task cards on hands for different skills, then you will always have something useful for an extra set of hands to do.

Use task cards for review, as an early finisher activity, for the I do, we do, you do model, and more

4. Have Early Finishers Complete Task Cards

Keep your 3rd, 4th, and 5th grade students that always finish early engaged and learning by having them complete task cards when they finish their work.

Use these tips from Teaching with Task Cards to help you set up and manage this.

5. Use Task Cards as a Low Prep Center

Making Inferences Task Cards for Upper Elementary

6. Use Task Cards to Play the Whole Class Game SCOOT

SCOOT is a fun, more structured way to use task cards whole class.

Give each upper elementary student a task card to answer at his or her own desk. Then, on your signal, have the students leave the card at their desk while they move to the desk next to them. Have students continue until all the cards have been answered.

This "game" is best played with task cards that can be answered relatively quickly by all your students. Task cards that involve a lot of writing might cause problems, as some students will need a lot more time, and the rest of the class would have to wait on them.

7. As a Daily Morning Work Activity

For an easy - to - prepare morning work activity, simply display a few task cards and have students answer it as they come in. If you use something like this Reading Skills Task Card Bundle, you will have enough task cards that you won't have to think about morning work all year long!

You might like some of these other morning work ideas. 

8. Use as a Quick Assessment or Exit Slip

Need some low prep task cards to review different skills with your class or to review for state testing?  These are some of my most popular:

Character Traits Task Cards to Build Vocabulary Point of View Task Cards Context Clues Task Cards Main Idea and Details Task Cards Cause and Effect Task Cards

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Responsibility Task Cards

Looking for a creative-student centered way to teach responsibility.  Look no further than Responsibility Task Cards! Homeschooling mothers, educators, and/or teacher-librarians may implement for individual or group assignments in grade 3 through grade 12.  Tasks cards may be used before a lesson or after a picture book read aloud or as a culmination of a learning unit.  The set of six cards includes character trait title card, introduction card with directions, basic level activities, project level activities, challenge level activities, and an educators’ tip card with additional resource links.   Assign all three activity levels or a combination of levels; educators may modify tasks based on your students’ learning needs.

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What are Task cards: 18 Creative Ways to Use them

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Have you been hearing about task cards lately but are wondering what are task cards? Maybe you know what they are but are looking for new ideas for how to use task cards in the classroom. You’re in the right place!

So What Are Task Cards?

Task cards are essentially a more engaging, broken-up worksheet. Each task card has one task, or one question. Unlike worksheets, they are much more flexible in the ways to use task cards. Usually, each task card is smaller – think index card size – and has more white space.

Task cards can be used in just about any subject area and any grade level. How they are designed and used does, however, need to be considered and altered to ensure students are able to use them independently. This is key.

Why You Should Use Task Cards

So if a task card is basically just a mini worksheet, why use them?

  • Task cards are more engaging and keep students interested.
  • They are more interactive – incorporate movement, group work, or a challenge!
  • Task cards are amazing for chunking work as for students needing accommodations – more white space and less overwhelming.
  • Task cards can be easily differentiated – just have different students complete different cards!

How to Use Task Cards in the Classroom

Task cards are an effective way to engage students by practising skills and concepts in fun and creative ways. Using task cards in the classroom is easy and can really increase student motivation. I know I’m not the only one hearing groans when I hand out a worksheet, right?

You can find a number of ways to use task cards for all subject areas below but really, the only limit is your imagination! I’d love to hear how YOU use task cards in different ways – just comment below.

Collection of Measurement task cards on a desk with a student answer sheet.

Ways to Use Task Cards in Elementary

1. task card scavenger hunt.

One of my favourite ideas for having fun with task cards is to hide the task cards around the room and have students find and complete them. This is even more fun if you can take it outside of the classroom and hide the cards in the hallways, library, gym or even outside!

2. Station Rotations

Set up stations or centres around the room with task cards for students to complete at each station. Alternatively, task cards could be one permanent centre activity in your regular literacy or math centres.

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3. Table Games with Task Cards

Task cards can be so easily adapted to almost any simple board game. Require students to answer a task card before playing a turn. If they get it wrong, they lose their turn!

4. Play Scoot with Task Cards

Whole class games with task cards is a class favourite! Wondering how to play Scoot? In its basic form, pass out the task cards to each student/table. Use a timer to have each student answer their task card on their recording sheet. When the timer goes, you can have students move to the next task card and repeat or have students pass the cards to their neighbour.

I think it is more fun to have the students move but some groups handle this better than others so pick what works for you!

5. Task Cards Teams

Divide your class into teams and take turns answering questions, or race to answer first. Teams could get a point or fill in a space on a game board.

6. Early Finishers

Provide task cards for students who finish their work early to keep them engaged and practising whichever skill(s) you choose.

7. Homework

Send task cards home as homework for students to complete. I would recommend having a simple photocopied version or use digital task cards for homework in case they don’t all make it back!

8. Assessment

Use task cards as a formative assessment to check student understanding of a skill or concept.

9. Small Group Instruction

Task cards can provide a quick and easy activity to do with a small group of students as an intervention or even enrichment.

Use this set of specific math skills (grades 4 – 8) to easily identify students working on the same math goal – perfect for planning guided groups!

10. Self-Assessment

Have students complete task cards and then use the answer sheet to self-assess their understanding of the skill or concept. Immediate feedback is always a bonus in education.

11. Task Card BINGO

Create a BINGO board using task cards and have students complete the tasks to fill in their board. You could use the numbers on the task cards to make an easy board that could be reused over and over.

12. Task Card Match

Print task cards on one colour of paper and the answers on another colour. Have students match each task card with the correct answer.

13. Task Card Race

Divide the class into teams and have them race to complete a set of task cards.

14. Task Card Tic-Tac-Toe or Connect 4

Create a tic-tac-toe or Connect 4 board, have students complete a task card before being allowed to play on the board. This is great for partners or small groups and requires almost no materials.

15. Task Card Swap

Have students walk around the room with a task card and find someone to ask their question to. If both students can answer each other’s card, swap cards and find a new person.

16. Task Card Gallery Walk

Put task cards up around the room and have students walk around and complete as many as they can. This can be done at one time, consider setting a timer, or over the course of a day or week when there is spare time.

17. Exit Tickets

Use task cards as exit tickets, providing students with a question or task to complete before leaving the classroom. This is a quick and easy formative assessment at the end of a lesson.

18. Digital Task Cards

You can also use digital task cards. Having task cards in a digital format is great for distance learning and homework, but also for in-class with the use of computers, Chromebooks or iPads. Students always love when they get to use devices!

How to Organize Task Cards

The problem with task cards is that you run the risk of ending up with a million small pieces of paper floating around your classroom! So you will want to come up with a system to keep them organized, and prevent different sets from getting mixed up.

Here are a few things to consider:

  • Cut out the task cards and place them in a container or on a ring.
  • Use small plastic containers or pencil cases are an ideal way to organize sets of task cards. Plus they stack and store easily.
  • Include a title task card so you know what topic and level each set is covering.
  • Print different topics on different coloured paper so you can sort task cards at a glance.

While colour task cards are great in theory, many schools don’t have colour printers and buying your own ink gets expensive fast! A great tip is to print your task cards in black and white but on coloured paper. Fun, colourful task cards without the expensive ink!

How to Make Task Cards

Making task cards is actually pretty easy, albeit a little tedious. If you plan on making your own, I would recommend creating a task card template that you can use over and over.

In their most basic form, you could simply create 4 rectangular text boxes on a page and write or type your questions. Of course, it’s fun to get a little more creative with design using borders, clipart and/or colours.

If you aren’t so techie and would rather make by hand, large colourful index cards are perfect for task cards! These blank ones are the perfect size.

They could be any size that works for your content and grade level. Literacy task cards will likely need more room than math task cards. Primary task cards may need to be bigger for larger fonts and graphics.

Each task card should be numbered so that it is easy to match the questions with the answers on the answer key.

It’s a good idea to include specific details such as specific concept, expectation, grade level etc… on your task cards in case different sets get mixed up.

Consider creating task cards at different levels for easy differentiation and building a design feature that allows you to easily sort them. For example, using a colour, letter or shape to code all cards of the same level makes for quick instructions to students.

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Rights and Responsibilities Task Cards

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Rights and Responsibilities Task cards are perfect for your secondary lesson plans and topic revision. They are suitable for Secondary  KS3 and KS4 students. They feature different activities including knowledge retrieval practice, multiple choice and spot the mistakes amongst other Citizenship related activities.

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These 24  Rights and Responsibilities Citizenship task cards are perfect for your Citizenship lesson plans and topic. They are suitable for KS3 or KS4 students. They feature different activities including knowledge retrieval practice, Multiple Choice and spot the mistakes amongst other Citizenship related activities.

Contents of Citizenship Knowledge Retrieval Topic Task Card bundle 1 x Set of 24 Different topic Task Cards with a range of activities and styles in an editable format 1 x Teacher Answer Sheet – All answers covered 2 x Student Fill in Activity Sheets that can be used with the cards (Optional)

Each Topic Task card is matched to the theme of the set and includes numbering and answers designed by our subject Specialist . Cards can be printed in colour or black and white.

How to use Knowledge Retrieval Topic Task Cards? These cards are perfect as an extension task, starter or plenary and as a means of testing knowledge upon completion of a unit. For a short task (extension/starter/plenary), you can simply give them one or two cards and differentiate which cards are given according to the students level or their areas needing improvement. For an end of unit, you could hand the cards out to different groups and have them switch the cards after a certain period of time (e.g. one group gets multiple choice, one group gets spot the mistakes, one group gets photocards, etc.).

Benefits of using this new style of  T&L activity

  • Set of retrieval activities
  • Motivating for students
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  • Fun way to revise a topic
  • Allow for differentiation
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VIDEO: How a new book is helping women reclaim more time for themselves

A writer and mom of three is showing couples a new way to build a stronger relationship through sharing the workload at home. 

Eve Rodsky, author of the book "Fair Play," created a simple game that divides household tasks. All you do is shuffle the cards and play the hand that's been dealt to you.

Rodsky's method has been cheered on by celebs like Busy Phillips and Reese Witherspoon.

"My finding was the number one thing men hated about home life was nagging, and the No. 1 thing women said they hated was the mental load," she said. "'Fair Play' eliminates all that conception planning and execution."

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Rodsky said she noticed there was an unfair divide in her and her husband's household responsibilities after her second child arrived.

"I got a text from my husband that had me sobbing on the side of the road and that text said, 'I'm surprised you didn't get blueberries,'" Rodsky recalled. "I had a breast pump in my passenger seat, returns for my new baby in the backseat, I have a client contract on my lap with a pen between my legs trying to mark it up as I'm going between traffic stops to pick up my first son from his preschool program."

"I was thinking, 'How did I become the default or the "shefault" for every household task?'" she said.

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Rodsky went on a quest to figure out a solution for domestic re-balance. She interviewed 500 people in her research and found out about "invisible work."

"How do you value what you don't see? So if you could make the invisible visible ... things start to change," she said.

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Rodsky developed "Fair Play" -- a time-saving system which offers couples a fun,new way to divvy up domestic tasks -- so it won't all fall on one partner.

In fact, a new Harvard University study says women hold the cognitive labor for household tasks.

With her research in mind, Rodsky came up with four rules, 100 household tasks and a figurative card game to play with your significant other.

(MORE: Mom's viral photo of her blended family inspires what it means to co-parent)

"Fair Play" helps you prioritize what’s important to your family and who should own each responsibility. The cards have four suits, Home (handling dishes, groceries), Out (transporting kids), Caregiving (medical, dental appointments) and Magic (because it takes time to play Santa or the Tooth Fairy).

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The cards are available for free download once you purchase the book and internalize the four rules to "Fair Play."

Here are Rodsky's four key rules.

1.) All time is created equal.

During her research process, Rodsky said she found men, women and society view men's time as finite like diamonds, and women's time infinite like sand.

2.) Reclaim your right to be interesting.

Both you and your partner are entitled to time for yourselves and your passions.

3.) Start where you are now.

Have an idea of what you want, and why you want to share the household workload. What would you like to get out of this shift?

4.) Establish your values and standards.

After you and your partner decide which cards or tasks are most important to your family, you must discuss how the tasks will be handled -- and the details of each task are crucial, Rodsky said.

"For me it started with extra curricular sports," Rodsky said, adding her husband chose to own this responsibility in their own game of "Fair Play."

Rodsky said if one person owns a card like extra curricular sports, then that person is responsible for it all: registering the children for their activity, xeroxing paperwork, providing snacks and arranging car pools for practice.

"Once husband understood that it required full ownership, I got 8 hours of my week back," she added.

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Bonus tip: "Understand that you are already communicating."

"A woman who told me she was afraid to talk about invisible work and fair play was the same person who told me she dumps wet clothes on her husbands pillow when he forgets to put them in the dryer," Rodsky said. "It's a conversation shift, not a conversation start."

"Shift the conversation to something productive," she said.

"Fair Play" is out now.

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